Post # 1
I’m now 18 days until my wedding and for the last few weeks, I’ve been having such crazy dreams! Dreams that will stick with me throughout the day and sometimes longer. These dreams are not typical for me…dreams of cheating (usually me on him), ex boyfriends coming back into the picture, calling off the wedding, breaking up, murder and crime and all kinds of stuff! I know my fiance has had some crazy dreams too, but we don’t discuss them too much.
Like last night…I had a dream that I kissed an exboyfriend while he was still dating his girlfriend and I was engaged…we knew it was wrong but kept going and didn’t care if anyone found out. FI and I broke up and it was just crazy…the worst part is that i didn’t care.
I’m afraid to tell him about all my dreams, worried that he may be more sensitive to them than I am and that it would cause him more stress. He’s nervous about the wedding, mostly because he hates speaking to large crowds and doesn’t like to be the center of the attention. I am not stressed out anymore, just excited, but i’m still having these dreams.
Who else has had or is having crazy dreams before their wedding?
Post # 3
As Freud said, sometimes a cigar is just a cigar. You’re totally normal.
Post # 4
@JennHasFeet: with 17 days until our wedding and being stressed out last night over the wedding, I did, indeed, have a doozie of a nightmare. FI wanted to call entire wedding off and wanted nothing at all to do with me. And he was leaving me for my little sister (in my sorority) whom I haven’t physically seen in over a year. I did wake up panic stricken. Not fun.
Post # 5
@stephinPA: yikes! it’s crazy what kind of dreams we can have when we are trying to prepare ourselves for something so significant!
Post # 6
@JennHasFeet: I kept dreaming about an ex right before the wedding too! You’re normal, and it totally goes away once everything dies down after the wedding.
Post # 7
Im still 4 months (to the day!) away but im right there with you. I had one the other night that involved an ex girlfriend and calling off the wedding. i woke up so mad at him, i told him i was this close to pushing him off the bed.
Turns out though we arent the only ones…. the FH came to me a week before that and said he had a dream i was previously married and he didnt know and was briefly mad in the middle of the night.
I love that we tell each other though and laugh about it….im always like -stop being mean to me in my dreams!
Post # 8
@totheislnds: hahahah. i don’t have a problem telling my FI if he wronged me in my dream, but if i’m the one who wronged him in my dream, i start feeling guilty! it’s silly!
Post # 9
try drinking some tea, or do things that help you relax after sleeping.
hot bath before going to bed, might help as well, so you can relax alittle bit
Post # 10
I’m not even close to the wedding yet and I’m already having nightmares! (Mostly about not being ready on time, no dress, etc)
Can’t imagine what wild dreams I’ll have closer to the wedding!!
Post # 11
@Naiexoxo: thanks for the suggestion. i will definitely try this.
@LisaC: i hope your dreams subside!
Post # 12
My nightmares started last week. I’ve had dreams that my sister (MOH) didn’t learn how to bustle my dress or lace it and it fell down and I full out slapped her across the face. Also had a dream all the guests and bridal party had on red pleather outfits while I was in white. Last night I woke up because I was scratch my arm so hard it left marks, I also rubbed my eyes so much in my sleep they were super puffy this morning.
I don’t know what to do, so I’m having a cocktail before bed tonight and hopefully it relaxes me so I can have good dreams instead of the crap I’ve been having.
Thankfully with 4 days left they stop tonight!!
Post # 13
@Soon2beeMrsM: oh my goodness! you need to get some great, uninterrupted sleep. i hope that you do!
Post # 14
About a month before my wedding, I started having doozy dreams about my crush-to-end-all-crushes from 5th grade. I had not seen the guy in YEARS, but there he was! Every single night, he was professing his love for me, trying to kiss me, etc.
It was driving me CRAZY, so I finally mentioned it to my MOH. She suggested I pray about it (I don’t know if you’re religious?) and just acknowledge what was going on. I did, and you know what? No more dreams.
I think you’re facing a HUGE change in your life, and your subconscious is trying to catch up. Seriously, I would try not to worry about it though. As long as you’re sure about marrying your FI in your waking hours, you should be golden.
Post # 15
@lindseyrose: 100% sure. Thanks so much for your input. I knew that it was probably just a normal thing, but a little feedback helps to keep nerves at bay. Just talking about it here has helped a lot already!
Post # 16
Ohhh my, girl, believe me, I know all about wedding dreams! I have had them since about four months out, and now I am at two and a half. Mine are to the point that they are so realistic that I think they actually happened. I am talking like calling wedding venues about things I really need to call them about, and having a full, detailed discussion. I thought it really happened, but when they called me a week later because I had not gotten back to them yet, I realized I had dreamed it!
Not to mention the dreams about ex’s and everything else… I guess that’s just part of wedding stress!