Post # 1
So my Fiance and I have always wanted this ballroom for our reception/ceremony space. Its in the perfect place and its big enough and pretty enough for what we wanted. Unfortunately the place requires you to have a member sponspor you. So first thing we did was post on facebook to see if any friends were members. One person on my friends list messaged me and said she was a member and told me she could get me in. She then asked me multiple questions about the day (dress, ring etc). I told her I was very interested in the ballroom and asked several questions about the space (catering, policies etc), which she answered. Now its been 2 months and I cant get ahold of her. I can see that she’s reading my messages but she won’t respond. The thing is…she’s my boss from my old job. I left on good terms and she was always really fun and nice. I don’t want to push too hard but I don’t want to give up on my dream space. What should I do?? I’ve asked around but we don’t know any other members? Is it time to move on?
Post # 3
#1 – Have you called her? Picking up the phone can solve a lot of mysteries, relying on text/FB is risky.
But beyond that, Yes, it is time to move on. If she isn’t replying, it’s for a reason. Maybe her membership has lapsed. Maybe she had a falling out with someone at the club who is in charge of booking the room and doesn’t want to air the details to you. Maybe renting a room requires a minimum membership spend she hasn’t hit. Maybe she is worried your guests will trash the place and doesn’t want to tell you.
For whatever reason, she is ignoring your requests. Move on and find something else. Send her one final note that says, very casually, “Hey Jane, Thank you so much for offering to sponsor us at X ballroom. Since we haven’t heard back from you, it doesn’t seem like that is going to work out anymore and we don’t want to put you in an awkward situation. We are going to start looking for new venues if we don’t hear otherwise by Y date. We just wanted to let you know so you don’t reserve the space and then we find something else. Hope we can catch up soon, miss working with you!”
Post # 4
I think it may be time to move on to a new dream space. This sounds like too much stress, and you don’t want to be so dependent on someone else like this for your wedding plans. I know this sucks, but if you try looking around a bit more and broadening your search you may end up finding some place that exceeds your expectations or offers you something better than what you could be getting at this original place.
Post # 5
@RubyLeprechaun: We had my shower at a country club where we had to be “sponsered” by a member. Luckily we knew someone & had no problems, but if we didn’t know someone the coordinator said she would ask around the club and see if any of the members were willing to sponser us. At the club we had it at, it didn’t affect the member at all.. nothing was charged to their account.. it was just simple a name they needed. Maybe you could ask the coordinator and see if that’s a possibility.
Post # 6
@NAvery: I haven’t called her. We weren’t THAT close and I feel like it would be rude to call her at work.