Post # 1
I have been a nosy bride to be and have been popping in at my venue to check out other weddings being set up. Just to see what brides are doing with the space.
I have noticed weird things though, and I wondered if other bees have noticed anything similar and what do you think of these things:
- First, the venue always puts napkins in drinking cups…coffee mugs, water glasses…what is going on with that?
- Forks placed horizontally above the plate setting Is that traditional? It looks kinda fancy but takes up a lot of room too it seems.
- Chairs are always placed far out from the table, not under it. I wonder, does this mean the chairs cannot be pushed in or fit under the table? Makes me rethink my guest per table….
- Chair covers look so …. creased but kinda frumpy. The bows are floppy and not sitting straight on the chairs
I never thought I would have to ask my venue to not put a napkin in a coffee mug….lol…
Napkins in mugs…..
weird creases in the chair covers…sloppy looking…
Chairs cannot fit under table. maybe this is normal!
forks across the top of the place setting…
Those bows have an awful lot of ‘flop’ to them!
Post # 3
I’m pretty sure the forks thing is normal. I googled formal place setting and got a few variations, but it did include:
ETA: How did you know there were weddings and how did you sneak in? Are you sure they had a chance to go over everything one more time before guests arrived? If it we me, I would set everything out decently and then go over it one last time to fix things like the bows.
Post # 4
I think you’re being a little particular – but I think there’s no harm in asking the venue if you can have things set up in a certain way (forks at their normal place, napkins not in a cup) I know my caterer asked me how I liked my napkins set up.
As for the chairs, I work at a lot of events and this is normal. But, no harm in asking for them to be pushed in.
Post # 5
Thanks for the info ladies! 🙂
I am def not falling to pieces over anything just picking up on things
Post # 6
Napkins in glasses or mugs hide wrinkles and give some height to the tableware without using more table space. Fork above plate is very old school, technically it’s the right place to put the fork that’s not for salad or entree. Chairs not pushed in gives a more “flowy” look to the table and lets the tablecloth hang instead of the chair acting almost like a weight/anchor.
Post # 7
The napkins in the cups is a traditional way to display the napkin in catering. If you want them displayed some other way I would ask the venue.
The forks would be the dessert fork I believe. That is the traditional way to display them when seating a table.
The chairs I’m sure can fit under the table but it is a technique that allows the table cloth to sit straight and to display the chairs.
The crinkle in the chair covers is from them being folded. If you want them to not be crinkled you would have to iron them.
Post # 8
i actually think they move the chairs from underneath the table to make the room look more full for smaller weddings but that is just my guess, i think it all depends on the venue itself!
Post # 9
You should be able to ask the venue to fold and place the napkins the way you like. Mine did that for me. I’m just assuming that’s how they normally do it and no one ever asks them to do it differently.
Pushing in the chairs – I think that’s just how they set them up. It makes the room look more full and formal. It also keeps the table cloth from creasing. If they are using normal banquet tables which I am sure they are then it’s just for show and the chairs push under.
Ps – I’m an interior designer for hotels and this looks pretty typical to me. But you should be able to ask for the set up to be whatever you want it to look like within reason.
Post # 10
@MsBrooklynA: She said it perfectly. Everything is pretty normal, and I wouldn’t consider it strange at all. It makes it look more formal, and is the proper way to set things up.
If certain things bother you then tell them and I am sure that they will accomodate. Like for instance, I don’t want my napkins in cups, so I plan on having them folded fancy with the menu and charger.
Post # 11
I am a wedding coordinator. I agree with everything that @fishbone posted. I would like to add that you can’t do anything about the chaircovers. Just like dry-cleaned pants, they have a crease down the middle. They also have to fold them to transport them. The bows can be fixed, just specify that you want the bows a bit smaller so that they don’t flop over. But tell them this beforehand. If I were you, I would also ask that the napkins be folded a different way. Stuffing them in cups is very out-dated. You can google different ways to fold napkins and see if they are willing to fold them differently, which shouldn’t be a problem.