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    cecy2409    June 25, 2011  

    Hello everybody,

    I really enjoy reading your conversations, and usually find all the answers to my questions by reading existing threads. So much accumulated knowledge in this place!

    However, I get married in three weeks, and I am getting to the point where I am self-conscious about everything, even when  I thought I had already made up my mind on hair/accessories. So I thought I'd ask for your wise advice. I had my make-up and hair trial about 3 weeks ago, and then locked myself in our guest room so my fiance would not see me on my wedding dress, taking a gazillion pictures of different hair-dos. I asked my make-up artist to do soft curls, and then I tried on my veil, and felt naked without a necklace. Especially when I put my hair up, which I liked a lot better, since my veil has a triangle shape, and it looks kind of odd with all the curly hair down

    When I shared my photos with my mother and mother-in-law, they said they preferred my hair down, with no necklace, because: a) the neckline of the dress has a lot of beading going on, and b) I have "twin" moles/birthmarks on my chest that make necklaces look odd... my mom thinks the twin moles are cute and that they are enough for accessories. but she's my mom and she thinks everything *me* is cute, and we disagree on that one..

    So my questions/insecurities that keep me up at night (and that my fiance does NOT want to hear about) are:

    * hair-up or down?

    * necklace or no necklace? what type?

    I'm wearing a short choker that my fiance's aunt sent me, that goes above the "twin" birthmarks. I feel it looks odd. that's why I usually wear more visible/thicker necklaces, so i can hide them :( I went to Etsy and really liked this Calla Lilly necklace, and this one with orchid flowers.

    This is my wedding gown 

    Me with my hair up:

    strapless gown, necklaces and the self-conscious bride with chest birthmarks :  wedding birthmarks hair updo anxiety Beehive Hair Up

    Me with my hair down (i don't seem very happy about it):

    strapless gown, necklaces and the self-conscious bride with chest birthmarks :  wedding birthmarks hair updo anxiety Beehive Hairdown

    Hair straight (and another style of necklace.)

    strapless gown, necklaces and the self-conscious bride with chest birthmarks :  wedding birthmarks hair updo anxiety Beehive Sample

    any advice is appreciated..

     
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    SandyThePoet    May 5, 2012   Silvis, IL

    I think you can cover up the birthmarks with tattoo cover up. I think if the stuff covers black ink, it should cover that without being very noticeable. Overwise I would suggest a lace choker added to the front of the dress, but then you wouldn't see your pretty necklace.

     
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    slydon    August 13, 2011  

    hair down 100% hair down is in right now. I even think the necklace would still even be ok.  if you want to take attention away from the moles use a dinair air brush it is awesome on all flaws on the skin. You can find one on ebay or your makeup artist might have one or might want to to buy it from you after the wedding if you do buy one.

     
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    Cherylmarie2818    July 22, 2011   South Lake Tahoe

    I love your hair down and curled! You look beautiful! I would suggest some type of make up to cover your moles if they really make you self concious.

     
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    summerbride12    June 12, 2011  

    I think you look stunning either way, but I love your hair down! I wish my hair was just a bit longer so it would look like that. I also have a noticeable mole on my chest that I've always been self conscious about but I'm trying hard to just accept that it's there and try to ignore it. At least for me, covering it with makeup would make it look way worse so I'm just going to wear whatever accessories I feel like lol :)

     
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    CruiseWedding2010    October 8, 2010   San Diego

    I like your hair down and curled, I like your birthmarks :)  They look like freckles & are part of you!!  I wouldn't be self conscious about them at all, I like it when my freckles show more in the summer.  You'll be gorgeous on your wedding day!!

     
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    Wonderstruck    September 18, 2011   Detroit, MI

    I think you look great both ways, and that the other style of necklace (the kind you prefer) actually draws my eyes to the area more. I don't think there's anything wrong with your birthmarks, but as someone else said, I'm sure the tattoo makeup would cover them up just fine if they're going to bother you.

     
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    Bellini    January 1, 2011   Washington, DC

    i'm not much of a necklace person when it come to wedding dresses.  and you look gorgeous with your hair down!

    in general i think jewelry is meant to draw attention to certain areas (necklaces to draw attention to collarbones and...you know). if you're self concious about that area i would skip it.

    obviously jewelry's primary purpose is to make women swoon, though, so if you are set on wearing a necklace, go for it.

     
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    Sschaf    September 2, 2011   Michigan

    Hair down--its gorgeous!

     
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    cecy2409    June 25, 2011  

    Thank you so much for all your wonderful advice. I always envisioned myself with my hair down on my wedding day--so i'll probably go ahead with it and maybe skip the necklace. One more less thing to worry about. I am just hoping the last weeks before the wedding won't drive me crazy wondering if I made all the "right" choices. Thanks again!

     
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    PrincessMandieMae    September 29, 2013   Waterloo, Iowa

    Try a tattoo cover up otherwise usually your photographer can cover it up when he prints the photos.  Honestly I don't think they look bad at all. 

    I have scars all across my chest from when I was 16 and had numerous surgeries in about a 7 month span.  I think they give me character and I don't even think about them until someone else brings them up.  When I was trying on wedding dresses and veils I was only thinking about wedding dresses.

    I can understand where you're coming from though, at first when I had the scars I was very insecure about them, now I embrace them because they are apart of me.

    Having a necklace looks fine, but just so you know not having a necklace looks ok too and sometimes cover-up can make them less noticable as well.  GL

     

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