(Closed) Strapless ok for Cathoic church?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: With straps or without?
    Definitely with - strapless is in poor taste. : (18 votes)
    18 %
    Strapless is fine! Have seen it before in the church and it's not a problem. : (57 votes)
    58 %
    Probably better with the straps, but not a hard and fast rule. You can choose. : (24 votes)
    24 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    It all depends on your priest, Mine said it was okay to wear strapless.

    Post # 4
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    1278 posts
    Bumble bee

    It depends on the church and the priest, I would ask him.  Some allow it, others do not.  You could always get a  bolero or jacket for the ceremony if needed.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @TinaJade: Hi there. It very much depends on the individual. Some are far more conservative than others. To be honest spaghetti straps is basically the same as strapless so its much of a muchness. If you are worried I would speak to your priest at that church, but you would have to be prepared for him to suggest that you wore something more modest. Alternatively you could ask a female member of the chuch like your future mother in law as she might have been to a wedding at that church before. Best of luck, I am sure you will look wonderful in whatever you wear!

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee

    Yeah, as PPs have said, it varies from parish to parish, depending on the priest and how conservative or not the congregation tends to be.

    “Better safe than sorry” is a good rule of thumb where this is concerned. If you can find a bolero, shawl, removeable sleeve or strap, etc., that you are happy with, you can at least have it in reserve. Better to have it and end up not needing it, than to get there and be told at the wedding rehearsal that you have to find a cover-up by the next day. You also always have the option of wearing the sleeves/straps/etc. for just the ceremony and removing them for the reception, which allows you to experiment with different looks for your gown.

    Post # 7
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @TinaJade:  I agree with Sea_bass in that strapless and spaghetti straps are very much the same look from afar in terms of modesty (shoulders, back and neck are still exposed), and your church might request you wear a shawl or bolero. Hope you get your answers quickly. You’ll be beautiful no matter what!

    Post # 8
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    98 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    It depends on the church. Call the church office and the person there should be able to tell you. They get those questions all the time.

    Post # 9
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    1093 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Ask the priest who’s marrying you. He gets that question from probably every bride who comes through, it won’t surprise him.

    Our priest basically told me to use my best judgment, but he wouldn’t tell me no to a strapless dress because he knows most bridal gowns are strapless. I ended up buying a strapless dress but added sleeves to it.

    Post # 11
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 1998

    Get a shrug that matches your dress. You should really have your shoulders covered in church but now a days things are not as strict in the church

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It all depends on the priest and church. Most I have talked to say a conservative strapless is fine, as long as your back and cleavage are not fully exposed. My bridal consultant told me she always recommends a strapless dress to Catholic brides because it is so hard to find a modest dress with straps right now and it is easy to add sleeves and straps if needed.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    It all depends on the priest and church. Most I have talked to say a conservative strapless is fine, as long as your back and cleavage are not fully exposed. My bridal consultant told me she always recommends a strapless dress to Catholic brides because it is so hard to find a modest dress with straps right now and it is easy to add sleeves and straps if needed.

    Post # 14
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    Many Catholic brides opt for a bridal bolero to cover their shoulders for the ceremony in the church. The spaghetti straps are useless in this sense. The whole “strapless isn’t appropriate” idea is based in modesty. 1 cm wide spaghetti straps will not create the modesty that many Catholic churches require. 

    Post # 15
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    2889 posts
    Sugar bee

    I don’t think the spaghetti straps make any difference although that is what I wore for my catholic church ceremony BUT it’s because mine were part of my dress. The BMs all wore strapless dresses and I actually never stopped to consider that it may not be appropriate. The priest never provided instructions and I didn’t think to ask BUT no one told me it was wrong and I went to get my dress altered with my conservative aunt  who would have let me know if something was wrong. If you will have a problem, it will mean you need to cover your shoulders so strapless or add on spaghetti straps won’t make a difference. 

    Post # 16
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    901 posts
    Busy bee

    It seems like most Catholic churches don’t have a problem with strapless dresses these days. Spaghetti straps don’t create modesty, so they’re irrelevant in this sense.

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