Post # 1
This is the first time I’ve posted in here, but I need some advice or at least some words to calm me down!
With my wedding approaching in just over two weeks, the stress of everything is starting to weigh on my shoulders. We have our last minute loose ends to wrap up that probably should have been done a long time ago (like choosing our first dance song – OMG, so hard!).
The biggest stress of all for me is that I come from a family of drinkers (and by drinkers, I mean alcoholics), and I am terrified that our night is going to be ruined by someone doing something stupid or getting out of hand. I know the easy solution would be to not have invited those problem people in the first place, but the two people that I am concerned about the most is my brother and father. They are both the type of people known to get violent, fall all over the place, act sloppy, say inappropriate things, try to control the music, etc. I really don’t want to babysit all night or have to feel like I need to keep an eye on them, and neither of them have someone to really look after them (no SO’s). Our cocktail hour starts at 5:30 and our open bar will last until 1AM.
Is anyone in a similar situation, or had a similar situation at their wedding?! Am I over-thinking things?? I feel like at this stage of the game I should be able to just relax and look forward to our big night, but this is really starting to worry me!
Any advice would be appreciated 🙂
Post # 2
I’m not married, but I also have some alcoholics in my family- so I sypathize. (I also have some family members who have successfully gone through AA, and they swear by it.)
Could you ask another family member or a member of your bridal party to keep an eye on your fathger and brother? How about asking the bar staff to keep an eye out for those two and cut them off before they get too stupid. If you have a wedding planner or coordinator you could ask them to keep an eye on your relatives.
Post # 3
- Wedding: May 2014 - Paradise Gardens
MrsEnn2Bee: Firstly, Congratulations on your upcoming nuptuals! Take a second and just breath…. you are right on track to have a wonderful day with you and your soon to be hisband.
While we had picked out our 1st dance song months before our wedding… we hadn’t decided on many other song selections such as the bouqet toss, garter toss, or the entrance songs for the bridal party. We decided that 6 days before! I think there are plenty song lists out there that may give you some good starting points.
Also, do you have a day of coordinator? If so you can communicate your concern about the drinkers and have him/her keep an eye on the bar and who may be getting a tad out of hand. That way he/she can wrangle them in and you won’t have to worry about babysitting or innappropriate behavior.
Lastly, You’re right…RELAX. The last few weeks vendors were asking questions I had already answered, finally wanting clarification about non factors, and trying to modify previous arrangements…I made it a point not to let ANYONE stress me out. I really just picked my battles…which were ver few and made sure that I stayed as calm and collected as possible.
So enjoy these last few days, weeks, and don’t foget to give us an update when the time comes!