Post # 1
Lets just hope its the hormones and the heat, but over the last few days i feel overwhelmed, and just want to cry. I am stressed out with some business related stuff (we own a business and work together) as well as personal issues with DH. Being pregnant is wonderful i just expected more support from my DH, sometimes he can be so difficult. I live in a town that is super small and i have no family here only my Dh’s, i have lots of professional aquaintances but no close friends here that i can or would want to talk to about this. I know that stress is bad for the baby but i just feel so lonely and sad, which makes me feel so guilty for potentially causing problems for the baby.
Thanks just needed to vent!
Post # 3
Have you talked to your husband about this? I know I tend to try to keep things inside b/c I don’t want to stress my husband out (we just bought a house that we have to fix up and we’re packing up our old place and have to find a renter and I’m 7 1/2 months preggo so we’re both worried about money), but that just ends up being bad for both of us.
I made up the rule for myself that I’m just not going to worry about things I can’t control. It’s useless, it gets me nowhere, and like you said, it just can’t be good for the baby.
Post # 4
@artbee: I am the same way i tend to wait until i cant take it anymore and then i am really upset. Sounds like a good motto if i cant fix it just let it go.
Post # 5
Telling the bees is a great first step!
Set up a phone chat with your best friends from out of town.
Take yoga classes or build in a 20 minute walk each day where you can admire nature….or do whatever activity will feed your soul…..church, a concert, maybe even going out dancing. You know yourself. Your baby is super lucky to have a Mommy who is self-aware….one day your kids will need to learn how to relax too.
Thanks for reaching out on the hive.
Post # 6
@octobermom: Hi. I think you and I are going through the EXACT same thing right now. Well, maybe not exact lol. I came home today, after a rough day at work and after being caught behind 45932890 schoolbuses that stopped at EVERY road they possibly could, stripped down, got in the shower and just sobbed. Now my eyes are all puffy and I don’t feel any better. 🙁 Maybe we can send each other positive notes of encouragement every morning or something?
Post # 7
Awwww octobermom & firsttimemom ((hugs)) to both of you. I think pregnancy is just kinda one of those times that stress seems a little more hieghtened and we tend to not communicate with our hubby’s as much b/c we feel like we’re being hyper sensitve and a bit irrational. Well.. good news is you’re not crazy! YAY! I think that communication is soooooooo important with our husbands through pregnancy. Have to Have to b/c pregnancy really is the easy part.. and just like engagement helps bring up this to talk about to prepare for marriage… pregnancy brings up things to talk about to prepare for parenting. 😉
I totally love firsttimemoms idea! I personally would really like that and I’m not even pregnant. lol
I might also look into some mommy daddy books that you could go through together… maybe take walks together to kinda talk through the day but relax at the same time?…
Or come here and get some ((hugs)) from the bees… JUST don’t think you’re crazy and don’t shut off
more ((hugs)) 😉
Post # 8
I agree. Talking to someone before it builds up, helps. As well as letting it go, even though that is hard.
It may be normal. I’ve been stressed on and off and I try not to worry him because he’s worried about other things and I don’t want to add to it. My friend said some stuff is like that. (She is pregnant with #2.)
Plus I don’t want it to make baby upset. (I know it’s a myth babies will come out upset, but I don’t want to, just in case.lol)
Post # 9
@MsMamaBear: “(I know it’s a myth babies will come out upset, but I don’t want to, just in case.lol) ” I LOL’d at that, my mom always tells me that she was really stressed when she was pregnant with me (her first) she said she was trying to do everything perfect etc etc, and she said i am high strung, where as my sister she was relaxed and did what made her comfortable during pregnancy, and my sister is laid back and goes with the flow. I said thanks mom, one more thing to worry about.
Post # 10
I know a single data point is generally meaningless, but for what it is worth was super stressed during pregnancy due to some pretty tough family health issues – and I have one of the happiest babies (not just by my opinion, but that of my friends with babies the same age). So please, don’t stress about stressing!!
it might be worth working on the issues with your DH though – babies cause lots of sleep deprivation which can only exacerbate underlying issues!
Post # 11
@octobermom: Uh-oh! More to add to my worry arsenal.LOL!My SO told me to stop being a worrywart…so I ate a Subway turkey sub!
Post # 12
I think today is one of those days. I’ve been so stressed out lately, today was my breaking point. I snapped at my son over nothing numerous times this morning, then I moved onto my husband! Boy were they glad when I left for work I’ll bet!