- 2 years ago
I was just wondering if anyone else is dealing with copious amounts of stress from their mothers? Fair warning this is probably going to be long winded and I’m sorry just really need to vent!
Here’s a little bit of background information. My mother has some issues, she’s never exactly been the perfect mother figure. Her and my dad divorced when I was 2, she took off and refused to have anything to do with me until I was 3 when she decided that she should be a “parent”. Now flash forward a few years she had gotten married and moved across 4 provinces without even thinking how it would affect her child and constantly tried to put me against my dad. So when she was getting divorced from Hubby#2 when I was 12 she convinced me to move and live with her. The only reason my dad let me was because he didn’t want to traumatize me by having police arrest my mom for kidnapping since she didn’t even have shared custody legally at the time. And after years of living with her and dealing with her mood swings and abuse (which I only put up with so that my brother had someone to look out for him), I moved out on my own 3 years ago.
Anyhow, I’ve been with my fiance for about 2.5 years, we got engaged over Christmas while visiting my dad and family. Yay! My mother didn’t even say congratulations when I called her to tell her. Which upset me obviously because aren’t moms supposed to be excited for their little girls. Well when we came home she still didn’t say congrats or ask anything wedding related. That was until we had sent out our invitations, when she started asking us how much everything was going to cost us and then she started saying that everything that’s wrong in her life is all our faults because we won’t help her out financially. When we told her that it was none of her business how much we’re investing in our wedding she got offended and didn’t speak to us for 2 weeks unless it was via text where she was calling me awful.
Now we’re 75 days away from becoming Mr&Mrs Football, she’s saying well I’m sure I’ll have a plus one by then and stirring up all kinds of drama. And I know that I can’t un-invite her at this point, but she’s causing so much unnecessary stress and drama that my fiance and I don’t want to have anything to do with her. How do we deal with her and how can we politely tell her we didn’t give her a plus one since she isn’t seeing anyone?