- 3 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Yesterday was one of them most stressful days I’ve had since beginning the planning, for two reasons:
1. My fiance threw out my veil. My hair trial was a week ago and afterwards, my bridesmaid packed the veil back up in the bag it came in and left it sitting next to my tote with my wedding shoes, shapewear, etc. When my fiance gets stressed out, he goes on cleaning binges and ends up moving or throwing out random things. Last night at about 11pm I tore apart our apartment looking for that veil, knowing that I hadn’t seen it in a week and he’d recently gone on a cleaning binge. It’s gone. It took me weeks to find that veil, it was the nicest one I could afford and the only one left at the store. I’m devastated. My fiance says he’s going to get me a new one but… sigh.
2. My FMIL is planning things behind our backs. We’re having a harpist at our wedding and when we first visited our venue at an open house, FMIL was with us. She told me about a certain song I should dedicate to my FI because he had loved it as a child (not true, she loves it not him, and I hate it). When we called her up this weekend to see if she was interested in a mother-son dance at the wedding (to join my father and I during our dance), she was offended that we had even considered it a possibility that she would not be dancing with her son.
She told us she had already privately, seperately “arranged the dance” with our MC. My fiance freaked out, because the MC is his good friend who said nothing about it to us, and the harpist is a HARPIST and not a jukebox. She can’t be expected to know every song in existance. FMIL lost her shit in response to that – she had genuinely believed she could just wander over to the harpist at any given time and demand that she play the song.
I had to call up the harpist and confirm that she can play the song and has the accompanying music to go with it. I’m angry because FI and I didn’t intend to have seperate mother-son, father-daughter dances but FMIL has demanded they have their own moment. FMIL has an explosive temper and any criticism or telling her something is not possible/won’t work will cause her to cut us both off until we come back and apologize. It’s happened multiple times, for over a year each time – complete estrangement. It doesn’t bother me in the least but it devastates FI every time.
Anyway, I’m exhausted and angry and stressed out. I have no idea what else she has planned without telling us as our MC hasn’t returned our phone calls yet.