Post # 1
Married bees, when you look back to the time leading up to your wedding do you regret all the stress you let yourself feel? Do you look back and say “what a waste of worry, it all turned out perfectly/alright anyway”.
I’m in the last stages of planning and hoping your advice can help keep me calm for the big day.
Post # 3
@smileyme: Admittedly, a little bit. But stress is stress and it’s all about how you handle it. 🙂 When you feel stressed about something wedding planning related, step back from it, and take a break. That’s my best advice!
Post # 4
i haven’t really been stressed at all. i feel like i will remain calm through the whole process.
Post # 5
@smileyme: I remember it. It’s was crazy stressful – but not because of planning but because of ridiculous amounts of family drama. It sucked.
My advice, take a step back, and breathe. Take a break from it for a bit to clear your head. Make lists of things that need to be done so you can get your thoughts organized. Prioritize any projects you have and if you feel too bombarded, just ditch the less critical ones. No one but you will notice anyway.
And what I think is very important – remember that it’s just one day (or part of a day!), so in the grand scheme of things, the little details really don’t matter that much so try not to stress out too much about them. As long as you get married and your guests are comfortable, don’t sweat the small stuff.
Post # 6
Thanks for your responses bees. I do remind myself it is only one day and I really can’t wait for our live’s to get back to normal. We were engaged for over a year so we’ve been planning for a while and the lead up has been long. My advice to anyone getting married – do not have a long engagement.
Post # 7
@smileyme: Agreed. I’m having the same problem. We also had a long engagement and I personally think it’s miserable. The planning is dragged out, so sometimes it felt like there was no reason to be excited and I constantly had to remind myself how far away it was. And now it’s getting close and I legitimately have a lot to do, and I’m so tired of THINKING about weddings that the last thing I want to do is plan details and deal with the stress of it. I just want to be married. I’m trying to remind myself that’s good and it will make the transition into married life easier!
Post # 8
I’ve been stressed, which has lead to stress related headaches, which of course doesn’t help either.
My Mom is basically my wedding planner, and I know we have time for what’s left to do, but if it were me, I would have gotten things done (that still need to be done) ages ago. Alas, I’m not actually really planning my wedding as it would have made me even more crazy. In all honesty, I know there isn’t a lot left to do, it just feels like there is.
I keep reminding myself that my rabbi told me as long as we have each other (my FI and I), the rings, the marriage license, two witnesses, and the ketubah, that’s all that matters (in regards to *actually* getting married). It helps.
Post # 9
@tirralirra: This is totally how I feel right now. I’m literally just like, “F this wedding dude I can’t wait for the honeymoon!”
I was super excited, but planning drama and family drama has left me just wishing for it to be over and me to be married to my honey and on a plane to Jamaica. xD
I literally don’t care anymore. It’s too much stress and, as others have said, nobody will notice. It’s not worth it to me, I’d rather stress about my classes at school and earning my degree with a good GPA so I can get a job. XD
Post # 10
@smileyme: my wedding is in 5 days. Things only really stress you if you let them!! Handle each thing individually and relax. Everything will be okay! I am also working this week! You CAN and WILL get everything done ; )
Post # 11
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
@smileyme: The stress REALLY is not worth it, especially during the last few days before your wedding. Just remember, this is supposed to be one of the most joyful days of your life. Why ruin that feeling, and those memories after the fact, with stress about little things? You have to consciously choose to focus on all the good stuff and let the stressors go. Ask your fiance to remind you when you’re getting stressed out but don’t necessarily realize it. You won’t regret it!! Good luck 🙂