Post # 1
I posted a few photos from my second fitting a couple days ago. I am 100% happy with the way my dress looks … in person. But the photos that my mom took of me are making me worry that it looks unflattering from the front. It’s a satin trumpet dress, and I feel like my tummy is sticking out in a gross way! It does not look like this in person, just in the photos. But I am seriously having a major complex about this — I am all for having curves, but do not want to look back at the photos of me and think that I looked chunkier than I actually was.
So … I am hoping for input from you wonderful ladies:
(1) Do you see what I am worrying about, or is it all in my mind? I do tend to be my worst critic, especially when it comes to photos.
(2) My FI knows a bit about photography, and he said that my cheap little camera’s bright flash is making the reflections off my tummy more pronounced. According to him, our professional photographer’s camera will not have this same effect. Any photography gurus out there who can tell me how much truth there is in this? He is such a sweetie and doesn’t want me to worry, so I’m thinking he could just be being nice.
To clarify, I don’t want to look like stick: I went for a trumpet style because I want to have a nice hourglass figure. And, the sad fact is that I am ALREADY wearing hard-core seamless spanx (I can’t do a corset b/c anything with any sort of seam shows thru the dress — I have tried literally four different kinds b/c of my paranoia about this).
Here are the pics. I would appreciate any help! Sorry for the length — I feel a bit guilty about coming here with a panic attack when I am such a new-bee still!
Post # 3
I don’t think you have enough of a tummy to worry about, but I can see what you’re saying, and I honestly think it is probably just your posture. I think if you were to stand up straight, the shadow would be gone or not noticeable. Right now, it looks slouchy more than tummy to me. You do look great, and it is a beautiful dress.
Post # 4
I was going to write exactly what Amaryllis wrote. It seems more like your posture that’s creating the illusion.
Post # 5
If you’ll notice the last photo is not as bad as the other two … not that any of them are really BAD IMO; I just see what you are talking about. The reason for this is that it looks like a flash was NOT used in the third photo because of the backlighting, as your hubby suggested.
I am a photographer and it is true that an on-camera flash is VERY unflattering. Provided, you hired a pro, your photographer, will NOT be using flash except when necessary, and his or her flah will NOT be straight on to create such harsh shadows and flat highlights as you see here. A lot of times we’ll bounce a flash off the ceiling, etc., so picture these same photos with the light diffused and coming from ABOVE or the side… a lot better right? Don’t stress. If it’s not there in real life, it wont be in your pro-pics.
Post # 6
Are the alterations on your dress finished? The cut of my dress is VERY similar, and when I look at photos of myself trying on the sample my posture looks horrific. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I was slouching a LOT more then usual to stop my dress from sliding down anymore! Your dress doesn’t look too big or anything in the photos, but that could be one contributing factor if you hadn’t finished your alterations.
Otherwise, I ‘see’ what you are talking about, but I really wouldn’t worry too much about it. You really have a flat stomach, and the shadows will certainly be a lot less harsh when a professional flash 🙂
Post # 7
Thank you all SO much — I can’t tell you how much you have eased my mind. 🙂
LBPhotography, your expert take was so helpful. And TealaB, Amarylls, and songt — I hadn’t even thought about my posture. My dress is altered and fits me well, but I am naturally such a slouch! I know now to keep that in mind for the wedding day — I am practicing sitting up straight now while I type this, hehe.
Post # 8
I doubt you’ll be standing in a semi-slumped, arms straight down position at your wedding..that posture you’ve got going there is the classic “take my picture in this wedding gown” pose…I know, I was rockin’ the same pose a few weeks ago…horrible photos..too horrible to post..an actual photog will know which angles are best and will shoot from that side. don’t worry…
Post # 9
i think you look great!
but if you’re really worried have you considered spanx? at least for the ceremony, and then let loose at the reception. hopefully that could ease your mind?
Post # 10
She already said she’s wearing Spanx in the picture.
I think you look great. Satin is just a really unforgiving fabric!
Post # 11
Here’s a thought… And I know the answer’s probably “no,” as it’s a trumpet dress–but I’m having trouble seeing exactly where/how it falls with where your hands are. Is there any sort of stiff-ish slip you could wear underneath, to pull it out and away from your lower abdomen, and away from your legs a bit? That might solve the problem for you, by not “cupping” the dress underneath your pelvis (let it stay fitted around the hips, but push it very slightly out to a-line at the front–again, not sure this is realistic!).
For what it’s worth, I think you look great! But I’m guessing that, if it’s bugging you now, it will bug you in future pics. I wouldn’t count on your photographer’s lighting to solve the issues. Indoors, especially, most lighting is overhead (whether in the room itself, or from your photog’s bounced flash), and the natural shadow will fall where you’re seeing it now.
Again, I think you look wonderful in it; but a slip and posture would be my two recommendations. 🙂
ETA: P.S. The focus in these pics is square on your abdomen–in nicely composed pics with other focuses, I’m sure you’ll barely even notice it!
Post # 12
I see what you’re talking about. Are you wearing heels in the photo? Put heels on, and stand up with your shoulders back. I’m sure that’ll help a lot. And the others are right – tell your photographer that this is an issue for you and they will work with the lighting and their photoshop stuff to fix it. I told mine i preferred one side of my face over the other so he kind of directed with that in mind. The flash stuff that you’re having issues with now probably won’t be the same on your wedding day. Have you tried photographing this outside? In natural light?
Post # 13
Thanks, ladies — I appreciate all of the thoughts. It is getting pretty close to my wedding day, so I don’t think I am going to make any major alternations to the dress at this point. Melissa — I like the idea of photographing it outside. Luckily, most of our posed shots will be outside, so hopefully that will help! My strategy besides that is going to be to stand up straight, turn to the side, and SUCK it in! haha.