Post # 1
Wow! I am so stressed out planning my wedding. The wedding is Aug the 8th so I still have time to get things done, but doing everything myself is driving me crazy, my mom and dad can not help me out because there both very sick, so I really dont expect a lot from them, and the family that could help me out is choosing not too. It’s just aggravating and my Fiance keeps wandering why Ive been in a bad mood. I just dont understand why he doesnt get it. I’ve already got a lot of things done on my own but with all the problems I’ve ran into I’m not even looking forward to my wedding and that day is supposed to be one of the best days of my life. I mean Im trying to have a good attutude about everything, but I dont know! Im some what regreting planning this wedding because now I Wish we would have ran off and got married, but Im to far into the planning to call it off! Please Help!
Post # 3
I totally understand. My wedding is Aug. 15 and we have a lot left to do. I too am doing it all by myself (except my fiance is helping a lot, so he actually gets why I’m so stressed.) What about giving your fiance certain things to be in charge of? Mine did: Photography, Honeymoon, Tuxes for the guys, anything to do with the officient and music. It’s working out well because it’s taking things off my plate, and also stressing him out, so he doesn’t think I’m a crazy woman! Hang in there!
Post # 4
I think the best thing to do would be to sit down with your Fiance and explain to him that you’re not getting any support or help from either of your families in planning the wedding and that it would really help you relax if he could take on a few key responsibilities.
Just be aware that if you delagate something to him, you should be prepared to LET GO. Give him a time table out front for how soon you need something done and mention it only once 1 week before it needs to be done. "Hey, let’s get together X day and discuss our plans for music/photography/whatever else." That way you remind him without nagging.
These are really reminders for myself, as much as you. I have such a hard time letting things go and letting other people help!
Post # 5
I think you should strongly consider hiring a wedding planner. It can be so worth spending a little extra to have someone working along side you who knows what they’re doing, and can take a TON of stress off your shoulders! It might seem like an extravagance, but look into packages that planners offer. Some even do a ‘Day Of’ service (which would cost less than full planning), but are willing to add in some extra meetings in the prior months to help you out with details. Being able to relax and enjoy your day stress-free is priceless. Good luck with whatever you decide!
Post # 6
Yeah, that’s a really good idea! He is trying to help on some things but he is always saying honey, it’s mostly your day do what you want and I think he just doesnt understand that I do want him to help out. But I guess I just need to relax and try to enjoy what I can. Thanks!
Post # 7
Good tip from MsBunny. If you delegate, you can’t really "follow-up" as it will bug him. A wedding coordinator would be amazing if you can afford it.
Post # 8
I know exactly how you feel because I’m getting married in July and don’t feel ready at all. I still have to get a photographer, florist, videographer, and DJ and don’t seem to have enough time in a day.
Thankfully, my mom is well enough to help. I wish my Maid/Matron of Honor lived closer so she could as well. Have you considered asking your bridesmaids to help out?
Post # 9
I’m in the same boat, doing it all myself is wearing me down and at this point I think I regret not simply getting married at the courthouse. Hang in there, the bees won’t let you down. Everytime I feel overwhelmed, I come here for support!
Post # 10
I would definitely try to delegate to your Fiance. Mine has specific tasks: transportation, dj and honeymoon. All things that I knew he would enjoy planning. He knows he has to do them and I don’t bother him about doing them, but I do make a point of telling him when I cross something off my to-do list so he’s reminded of his. He also knows he will face my wrath if he doesn’t get them done haha