- 6 years ago
- Wedding: July 2013
So my Future Sister-In-Law and Future Brother-In-Law WILL NOT hire a babysitter for their children. I’m not sure WHY. They can definitely afford it. They seem okay leaving their kids with other people. So I don’t know what the deal is.
That being said, my and my fiance’s engagement party is coming up in the summer. We are inviting close family and the bridal party and bridal party spouses. (I should say my parents are, as per my wishes, since they are hosting—they asked)
It is at a sports bar. I wanted something casual and fun. But adult.
My Future Sister-In-Law mentioned around Christmas that they were planning on bringing their kids and FBIL’s mother (who’s visiting from overseas). I told her that no one else is bringing their children. (keep in mind the invites aren’t out yet and are going out in two weeks from now)
So, I went to another one of my fiance’s family members birthday party on the weekend. Future Sister-In-Law invited her kids along (it was mainly child free since the family member is a bit older and child free by choice)….FSIL’s kids ran WILD. FSIL demanded they were fed first, sent them away to talk to family members(who are also not interested in children and have none of their own) and boasted proudly to her hubby “I got rid of them didn’t i?”….She complained about her dad’s lack of babysitting skills, and my fiance’s lack of babysitting skills…..(we are not planning on having children and I told her AGAIN that that is one of the reasons why, he has no idea what to do with kids)…..
So, now what? I talked to my parents about my concern. I am ONLY putting the wedding party and their spouses names on the invites. My mom is going to specify how many people each person is RSVPing for when they call.
I’m concerned that she will just bring them regardless of the RSVP and not watch her children (the above party is not an abnormal occurrence when at family functions…..just reiterated my anxiety since I’m thinking about the eparty since I’m making the invites)…..
any advice to deal with
1) her rsvp
2) just showing up with the kids/her Mother-In-Law
3) if she shows up with kids and they run wild?
I should include that my parents are paying for the food/toasting beverages…..and we’re in a private area of the bar….