(Closed) Stressed about planning and can’t take it anymore

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

*hugs*… I totally understand how you’re feeling, I think it’s inevitable to start to feel this way when you get down to only a few weeks left. Try to take a deep breath, calm down, and plan a day or two of total wedding detox — no wedding planning, blog stalking, or mentions of the wedding allowed. I know it’s SO hard to do when you feel like there’s still so much to do, but taking a weekend to just hang out, go to the movies, whatever, and forbid all wedding-related conversations for a couple of days will make you feel 100 times better I’m sure. It’s important to remind yourselves sometimes that you WERE once a couple who had interests and conversations outside of tiaras and table cloths — and you will be again when this is all over! Hopefully after a few days of total dis-engagement (is that a word?) from planning, you’ll be refreshed and ready to jump back in! 

Now if only I could take my own advice! 

Post # 5
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179 posts
Blushing bee

*hugs* I feel like I post a lot needing support too. It’s okay honey, that’s what we are here for. I’m in a similiar boat–FI & I never fought about money before. Now this…

I soooo understand what you are feeling. I wish I had better advice but I like the idea of just taking a few days off. Focus on something else. Buy yourself a present. Have a girls night with your friends. Do something non wedding related.

Post # 6
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596 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009 - Ceremony: The Kraine Theatre, Reception: Midtown Loft & Terrace

Yes, I first started reading WB because I needed support, too! Planning a wedding can be really hard and that’s compounded by the fact that we’re always told that it’s supposed to be blissful and so much fun. It’s okay to ask for a lot of support and feel down about things at times, but I totally second the advice to take a couple of days totally off from weddings and refuse to talk about it with anyone who asks! Just say, “I’m taking a couple of days to forget about wedding stress, so let’s talk about ____”

Big hugs!

Post # 7
Member
130 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

Why do we do this to ourselves, ladies?!  I agree with taking a few days off to just enjoy eachother and talk about things unrelated to the wedding.  The wedding will be there waiting to be planned when you’re done relaxing.  🙂

Post # 8
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1514 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

I’m so sorry to hear about the dress stuff and other stuff Panda.  In the end, it will all be better.  I’m so ready to just be done with it all too.  Between the jewler breaking my ring, catching my daughter’s cold, and my JP being a drunk, I just can’t take anymore.  Take the advice of the other Bees, forget about wedding planning for a day or two.  Go on a date with FH and DO NOT do any wedding talk.  You’ll feel a lot better and you’ll be able to focus on the end picture.

Post # 9
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1091 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Oakland Manor

I keep bursting in to tears when I try to plan my day, it’s constantly go go go and now that Mr.D’s family is here, he’s gone and I have to pin him down for him to fulfill his responsibilities.  It’s driving me crazy he’s 30 years old for pete’s sake!

You’re not alone by any means, you’re a month out so you still have tme to take a break, even just for a day! Get a haircut (if you haev a trusted stylist), get a mani pedi, go to a yoga class, get a mssage.  Force yourself to not think about wedding planning. Last week I went to the salon (my friend paid for my color to be fixed as a wedding gift – so sweet!) and I swear I was in another world when the girl was shampooing my head. I had to kept reminding myself to relax and focus on how nice being in a salon was. 

Off to make the deposit on the rehersal dinner place (which Mr.D was suppose to do) and find GM/BM/Parent gifts and go to Michaels for the 500th time today. shoot me now.

good luck!

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