Post # 1
So I am an events planner and I have done several high end events with production teams, stage managers, etc.
My wedding doesn’t have a production team...my bridesmaids, mom and myself are basically putting the entire thing together.
So the biggest issue i’m currently stressing about is the reception timeline. I understand the general layout of what needs to happen but how do I ensure that it runs smoothly?
We have our wedding party + our entrance after cocktail hour…and there is basically a big banquet table blocking us from doing anything fun. So I have to think of a creative starting point or something else.
Then we have grace, speeches, a chilean dance group, our first dance, father/daughter+mother/son dances, etc etc…
How I do I make sure this all plays out in order, with the correct music, at the correct time without anybody orchestrating it?
I would love to know what you did at your wedding!
Post # 3
You might want to consider getting a DOC who can help things run smoothly so you don’t have to worry about it. This isn’t something YOU want to try to manage on the day of!
Post # 4
@kmb727: i know but the DOC’s around here start around $600-1000 for a day and i’m just not willing to pay that.
Post # 5
@bretonvirgniia: I understand that. Any chance you could find a local bride and trade DOC services? She provides DOC services on your big day, and you on hers?
Otherwise, I think you could probably work with your DJ / band to help with the timeline, they should be used to helping events flow through the evening, as long as you let them know exactly what you want to happen, and when.
Post # 6
I would happily take on that task for a friend, even if I wasn’t invited to the wedding. Do you have someone you could ask? Many Bees will think it is inappropriate to ask a guest to take on that task, but I honestly believe that most people have someone in their circle of family and friends who would be glad to help out.
What about the MC? Are you having one?
Post # 7
@bretonvirgniia: We had a DOC and while she was super-helpful for setup/cleanup and vendor coordination leading up to the day, but once the reception was in motion, very little stage management was required. People know what to and what to expect at weddings. If your wedding veers from tradition, like mine did, people still know what to do, because they’ve all attended parties before!
That said, our DJ handled the playlists for the ceremony, cocktail hour, dinner and dancing and he gave short announcements if guests needed to move to a new space. We didn’t have him announce speeches or dances.
A Practical Wedding has some good tips about stage managing your wedding: http://apracticalwedding.com/2011/07/wedding-planner-tip/ and there other how-to’s linked to at the bottom of the post are great too.
I don’t think you need a DOC as long as your crew is capable!
Post # 8
yes i was considering a friend at the wedding to kind of run this…i just worry that they won’t be able to enjoy themselves if they are doing this too.
my aunt is the MC who will introudce everyone.