(Closed) Stressed and frustrated! (vent)

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

That is frustrating! But on the upside, you’re planning a wedding! Hooray!

 I got some resistance from my SO about Moissanite too – he said he’d feel embarrassed if people found out he didn’t get me a “real” ring.  I told him it’s an awesome “space gem” and that it’s almost as hard as diamond, and more sparkly, and most important, it’s what I want and I am really not interested in diamonds for a number of ethical reasons.  So, for now, he’s begrudgingly agreed to get me a moissanite.  If your Fiance is anything like my SO, maybe having some reasons other than financial would help sway him?

Post # 4
807 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ditto on the “reasons other than financial”. I’ve asked for an aquamarine, not a diamond, and I had to do some convincing because at first my SO thought I was just saying that because it would cost less. But I gave him reasons why I wanted it: it’s his birthstone, they symbolize a happy marriage, oh, and the part where I’m kind of obsessed with anything in that aqua-blue color (which he was already aware of haha).

I’m sure your SO just wants to make you happy, so try to think of some things that you really really love about moissanite/why it would make you particularly happy–super sparkly, ethical reasons, whatever it may be! 

Congrats on the wedding planning! The money part will all work out. Just do your research, shop around, and be creative. There are lots of great ideas on this site and others that will help you save money while still having a really beautiful wedding.

Post # 5
3303 posts
Sugar bee

My fiancé did the same. I showed him the site and hewanted to get a real diamond. Just be patient. Also, check into clearances. Macy’s has clearances on their jewelry and you would be able to find the ring you seek for a price you can afford.

Post # 6
237 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

He may come around to the moissanite idea? Is he usually the type that after a while will come around to an idea? Maybe if he knows you can replace the center moissanite later for a diamond? You can order a ring with real side diamonds and just have the center be moissanite. Guys have been brainwashed by the whole “diamond” industry. I hope he comes to see that moissanite is a nice choice. Even not as an alternate to diamond….just in it’s own right. It mostly passes for diamond but personally I LIKE some of the things moissie does. More colorful to me and more sparkly. I hope to get one myself someday. Best of luck!

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