- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2013
So here’s the situation…..I am getting married in November. My Fiance and I are planning a large (160 ppl) wedding in the city with the hopes that most people will attend. (One of the reasons we chose to have it in November) This is not going to be a cheap wedding…..
We are planning our dream honeymoon in Thailand in December (we have been talking about this trip for years) and we plan on spending next year saving for a downpayment for our first home (also what we plan on using any wedding gift money for.)
Well, we have come across a little bump in our plan. My best friend since 7th grade (and my MOH) got engaged last month, and has decided to have a destination wedding in June 2014. The trip is going to cost us about $1500 each ($3000 total) as well as other costs associated with being her Maid/Matron of Honor. While it is money that we didn’t want to spend, she is going out of her way planning my shower and is being an AMAZING Maid/Matron of Honor, so to me, I am happy to spend the money to help her celebrate her day.
BUT THEN, my brother goes and proposes to his girlfriend last week. They tell me today that they are planning a desination wedding in July 2014 (one month after my best friends) that is going to cost us about $2000 each ($4000 total).
I am very happy for my brother and his gf, but I am just ridiculously stressed and wondering where all this money is going to come from. I feel like the extra $7000 we will need to spend in 2014 is going to really put a fork in our plans for buying a house next year.
I was casually mentioning this to my Maid/Matron of Honor and she said, well, I guess you are going to have to wait another year to buy your house….
I guess I just feel a little upset that I need to put a hold on our future plans…buying a house, having kids etc…JUST so I can attend other weddings. The timing is absolutely HORRIBLE. My best friend and my brother AND me getting married all within 9 months of each other.
I totally understand that everyone has to do what is best for them….I am considering not attending one of them…but I just don’t know how I would possibly make that decision.
Bees, I am conflicted, a bit angry, but mostly just sad that all this is happening at once. Any advice?