Post # 1
ok well here goes nothing… i’m about halfway through our engagment and i’m pretty sure i’ve hit my breaking point… it all probably doesnt seem so bad on the outside but everything seems to be breaking me down on the inside. And i’m sorry ladies… This may be long.
First of all… Fi and I have decided to have a destination wedding in mexico and couldnt be more excited! we have a little more than 120 on our guest list and were fully aware that at least half probably wouldnt be able to make the journey with us. As it stands we have about 45 people on our rsvp list and are still waiting for a few more. I’m a failry punctual person so its killing me that some people havent even responded or even tried to contact us for ANY reason since our invites went out and this is making me so angry, i find it very rude and i’m super stressed.
On top of all that, my Aunt whom i am super close with and her 2 daughters(my cousins) we of the guests not able to attend… noet to make a long story short… shes a vengful prson. she is literally out to make me miserable because of this… i love her to pieces but i cant stand this. from the moment she found out she wasnt able to attend… she has told my other family members that she would just not go and take her kids elsewhere… well obviously this was a huge punch in the gut and i really hadnt heard anything from her in about a month only to find that my cousins (her daughters) posted on facebook that they were going to mexico in a month… way to kick me while i’m down! i’m so angry… not really that they’re going somewhere else… maybe a little that its mexico… but mostly that she’s never called me herself to advise me she wasnt able to join us, and rather that i had to find out on facebook… this aplified my stress almost to the max!
on top of all this, i’ve been stressed out about money… work… obviously family… the wedding plans… dental stuff… i’ve been working out again… and the list goes on and on.
I think i have officially wiped myself out… i’ve been getting tummy aches randomly, not getting great sleeps… getting the chills, sore bones (my back is killing me), headaches… etc… and THIS list goes on and on…
I’ve had the same stomach ach for a day and a half now and all i’ve been able to eat was about 3 bites of a donair last night… how can i make this stop!? i feel like i’m going crazy and my sanity is not worth this wedding!
Post # 3
First breath and take a minute to clear your head. Wedding planning is very stressful then you throw dramatic family on to the mix it doesn’t help. I would just ignore her she sounds really imature, the fact she didn’t tell you she couldn’t come in person is sad but she is acting like that not cool.
The thing you should focus on is your self and you FI, the day is about you two. Sorry that it is stressing you out so much.
Post # 4
I just want you to know that you aren’t alone. My mom stressed me out so much before our wedding that I lost 15 pounds from being so stressed out.
Do you have something that naturally relaxes you? For me, it’s running…so anytime I got stressed, I tried to go out for a run to clear my head. Yoga also helped…lots of deep breathing and focusing on yourself.
Just try to keep in mind that the big picture is about marrying your FI. That always seemed to help me put things back in perspective and trudge forward!
Post # 5
I totally know how you feel…I get stressed easily and when I first got engaged finding a venue and money issues stressed me out so much (and my wedding isn’t for another year and a half) that I got the same stomach aches and couldn’t eat ect. Two things helped me
1) talking it out with my FI even if it doesn’t resolve anything, he would ask me to list all the things that were stressing me out and we would talk about it, it helped even when we couldnt come to a completely solution. He also reminded me as the previous posts said said that as long as were married we would be happy which is so true…thats what I remind myself every time I am stressed…”at the end of the day we will be together and that is the important part”
2) FI gave me a back massages I know that it sounds stupid but it did get rid of some of the stress and headaches…my stress is often carried in the upper back, neck and shoulders and that can sometimes cause headaches.
Hang in there! And go do something that is completely unwedding related, a movie night with the girls or a date with the FI. I hope this helps!
Post # 6
Deep breath. In through the nose, out through the mouth.
Planning an event of this scale that includes not only a large group of people, travel, forever marriage vows and the logistics of all of this is insanely stressful. You are certainly not alone in that, take one look at the emotional boards.
But. You have to try to pick your batttles, me thinks. Instead of letting everything get to you, pick the things that really make a difference.
I hope things settle for you and that you can actually not only enjoy your wedding but also the JOURNEY TO GET THERE! It should be fun!