(Closed) Stressing about a 5-day Bachelor Party

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

@csteen85:  Are you not having your own bachelorette party? I would at least go out with your girls at least one night this week while he’s in Vegas to have some fun of your own! πŸ™‚

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

I don’t think you’re being unreasonable, but I do think the time for having this conversation has passed. Did you discuss how uncomfortable you were with this party before he went? I don’t know why he thought it would be okay to be gone for Christmas. I feel like you should have shut that down before he left, but I’m not sure there’s much you can do now that the trip is already happening. I guess my advice is just to trust your FI, remember that he loves you, and keep yourself busy doing girly things you enjoy (chick flicks, wine, girls night out, etc).

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I think it is perfectly natural to be feeling upset. First of all, a 5 day bachelor party is a bit excessive, but whatever. But the timing is horrible in terms of the holidays. I am afraid I would more than slightly resentful if I was your situation. The only things I can suggest are to try and relax and do try to have some fun while he is gone.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@trueblue14:  I agree, 5 days is a super long time, and that’s not very thoughtful of him to go at this time of year. I definitely wouldn’t be happy about it either.

Post # 9
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Worker bee

A 5 day bachelor party??! You’re not out of line at all for feeling the way that you do. I would be upset too πŸ™ He’s already gone now so my only advice would be to have fun with your girls. I hope you have a great bachelorette party!

Post # 10
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

@csteen85:  Awww! Honey I feel for you! My FH has one friend (bitter and recently divorced) that I don’t trust as far as I can throw him and I stress and feel anxious EVERY time they go out together b/c I feel like he would put FH in a compromising situation on purpose.

Feel better! & Play with your new Christmas presents! πŸ™‚

Post # 11
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164 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@csteen85:  i defintely know how you feel ! I am not prepared for my FIs bachelor party !!! I’m gunna try to do my bachelorette party the same weekend so I don’t have to just sit there while he’s out with his boys ! I hope you’ve been feeling better :)) 

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@csteen85:  & also my FI has THAT friend who is just ugh and can’t trust as far as I can throw him? Why is there always that friend ???? & really that’s what I’m anxious about !!

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

You’re a more patient/kind soul than I….no way in hell would my FI be going anywhere for 5 days for a Bachelor party, let alone Vegas. I trust him to no end, but I also don’t really believe in destination bachelor/ette parties; you’re getting married, you’re supposed to be over the moon-why is a huge party revolving around strippers needed? NO WAY….but I think you should have put your foot down about this from the get-go..can’t do anything about it now, except go have your own fun.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I disagree for people saying that 5 days is excessive. My bachelorette party is my friends and I going on vacation somewhere warm for 5 days. And we went to the Bahamas for 5 days for my other friends bachelorette. There were no strippers and just fun with your best friends. 

I’m just saying, if girls can do it, why can’t guys? If you trust your FI, you should trust him to do the right thing and not be lead by his hostile best man so easily.

However, it does suck that they’re going around the holidays, when it should be about family. That stinks. πŸ™

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