stressing about family complications…

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 2
1970 posts
Buzzing bee

kaylaann:  I do think that, assuming that everything genuinely is relatively normal, your step-mom should be able to conduct herself in a way that does not make you uncomfortable on her behalf.

However, my real concern is that you may have been made to feel that you have to be in close proximity to your abuser and that you are the “bad person” if you object.  You should not have to subject yourself to that stress if you do not want to, and any relative of yours who gets angry at you for “upsetting the peace” is, in my opinion, well, something I cannot type on this board.  I hope that is not what has happened to you. 

Post # 3
37 posts

People can’t help their feelings.   Should they put it aside for your sake.   Sure, I guess, if you were a child.  But assuming you are an adult, I think it was brave of her to go there in the first place.   You have realize she was like a scared deer in foreign danergous territory.  She likely had her walls up, but she still did it for you.  I would send her the best thank you card you can.

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