- 6 years ago
So I’ve been a long-time lurker on this site and you all may never know how it kept me sane during the year long waiting period leading up to my engagement!! My FI and I have been engaged for a while now and we are in the beginning stages of planning our wedding and it has become much more difficult than I ever imagined! And we are only at the point of picking a location… Geeze!!!
A little background before I get to my question… I have never been one of those girls that dreamed of a specific wedding. I don’t have colors, flowers or anything in mind, except we love to be ouside so we thought a sort of destination wedding in the mountains would be perfect! We would love to have it in a small inn so we could fill all the rooms and just have a weekend not only celebrating us, but also our family and friends who mean so much to us both. Well, we have been searching high and dry to find one and there is always something off… It has a 20K food and beverage minimum or it’s in the middle of nowhere so our other guests would have to stay at a crappy roadside motel or they don’t allow kids… THANKFULLY we found the perfect one this weekend! It’s in the most beautiful mountain town in NC, the staff is amazing, and our guests that don’t stay at the inn will have plenty of options and entertainment in the town…
Now here is the problem… We need to fill up all 23 rooms and they average $275-320 a night!!! I know that is super expensive and in the end it won’t matter that it is an award-winning, 5 star inn that usually goes for $500 a night because it is still super expensive! But the weird thing is, I’ve talked to a few of my bridesmaids to survey them and they didn’t bat an eye. In fact, one of them said “that’s not bad.” I know! Shocked me too! But I know that it is a lot of money for our families (although my FI and I are paying for 95% of the wedding) and I don’t want to inconvenience them. Truth is, I don’t want gifts and I don’t want money from them. I just want us all to stay together and feel a bit spoiled for the weekend. I want us all to wake up to someone cooking us breakfast in the dining room like one big happy family. Kinda cheesy but that’s my only vision for this wedding.
I know this is a lot, but is there any way I can tell them all I want is them there with us without it being tacky? I would like to email/call the people we want to stay there individually and say “it would mean the world for you to stay there for the weekend but please don’t feel pressured to because there will be cheaper accomodations”… And just survey them? Can I do that? Is that weird? The wedding would be in fall of 2013 so if I had those conversations now they would have plenty of time to save…
Any advice will be soooooo helpful!!! I’m sorry this is soooooo long!!!
Ps sorry I posted twice… I’m trying to delete the other