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I am the type who has a hard time making decisions. Planning our wedding was difficult in the beginning, because I was afraid of making the wrong decisions which can be costly. I am the type who acts impulsively, because everything has to be done now, now, now and then realize down the road I should have done it this way or that way. So, every decision that I have had to make I would sit on it for a few days and think about it, ask other people's opinion etc., basically talk it through to myself and take my time. So far, I've only made one decision that I was not happy with, which ended up costing me $30.00. I think in your case, if you have already designed 10 different invites, and you are still not satisfied with them, then stop. Take a break from it for a day and think about why you don't like the designs. Invitations are expensive, so if you pick something you sorta kinda like, and then buy it and realize later on that you HATE it, then it's going to feel like you spent all that money for nothing. When I began my search for invitations, I searched all kinds of websites, ordered samples, and I still was not happy with them. I must have ordered over 20 different samples. Finally, I took myself to A.C. Moore and about 45 minutes later, found one that I really liked. The invitation was very plain, but when I figured out how I could dress it up a little, I ended up being really happy with them. That was a year ago, and to this day I still love them, and don't regret a thing.

Have you seen anything online that you liked enough to use as inspiration?

@LC3636: I ordered my STD magnets from them. Their website is fabulous and I was extrememly pleased with my magnets. The packaging is great too!

I am a horribly indecisive person as well! I posted about a month ago with a frantic insecurity about the ENTIRE wedding, so I know what it feels like to constantly be second-guessing decisions. Here are a few things that helped me:

1. Boil down your ideal wedding style into a few specific words, and commit. We're talking two words, three tops (mine were elegant, sophisticated, and glamorous). Scatterbrained "well I like this and this and this..." is a recipe for indecision and stress. It helped me to pick out one feature about my wedding that embodied my "words," and then use it as a guide. I ended up using my dress (it was the first thing I got and I LOVE it--feels like it sort-of "grew" on me), so if something doesn't match the dress, it doesn't make the cut. 

2. Find a friend whose taste you really, really trust. Having someone around to help refine, reinforce, and clarify your own taste does wonders for feeling confident about your decisions. It's also nice to have just one other person in the world who thinks your wedding is going to look *awesome*. :)

2. "Which is better--A or B?" is probably your new best friend. Trying to make decisions with a ton of choices can be super overwhelming. Having a choice between two things is much more manageable. Trust your gut about what you like on first impulse. Doing this with aforementioned friend may help you make quicker decisions on things you're not sure about. 

3. Do NOT look at wedding porn. Not only will it show you "cute ideas" from multi-million dollar weddings that most brides cannot hope to afford, but it will also tempt you consider changing your whole wedding theme so that your wedding can look like "THAT one," even if "THAT one" is nothing close to what you even really like or are naturally drawn to. Being content is not about getting more--it's about wanting less. In my opinion, "Say Yes to the Dress" should be illegal for women to watch until AFTER the wedding. 

I'd say to step back, figure out what you like, and breathe a bit. Once you feel centered about a wedding idea, look for something that embodies it.