Post # 1
Talked to my FI the other night when he brought up the idea of changing the wedding date, and we both realized that we did not relish the idea of dealing with wedding stuff. We have tried to find a venue, tried to find bridesmaid dresses for 2 women that lived hours away from us, fought with a super tiny budget, FI hated the idea of wearing a tux/suit, me (being emotional) feeling that unless I’m a slender, 5’8″ slinky goddess, I will look terrible in a dress, and neither of us even wanted to plan the whole thing.
So we said “Screw that noise, let’s just get married by the pastor in front of our parents (and my brother, probably) and just concentrate on throwing a great reception!” So that’s what we’re going to do. And you know what? I feel so much better now! 🙂
Is anyone else feeling the same way or doing the same thing?
Post # 3
@Sweet_Tea: Good for you guys, you didn’t force yourselves to go through the motions of traditions you don’t care for.
I wish I could do my wedding differently, but I’m religious, and I have to do a religious ceremony. But I honestly don’t mind most of it, so I’m just like eh, whatever. We’re getting married. I don’t care about anything else.
Post # 4
Good for you! For reals! Do what you want!
Post # 5
It’s your day, you should do whatever you want! My FI and I always knew we didn’t want a wedding or reception. We hate going to them, so why would we want to put ourselves through that? We plan to elope and are considering going to Vegas to have Elvis marry us, as we’ve always joked about that. Our main concerns were an amazing honeymoon and the perfect ring for me, so that’s what we put all of our money towards. I got my dream ring, and we are currently planning a 6 country tour through Europe. Skipping a wedding we didn’t want anyway is helping to make that possible. SO worth it!
My cousin got engaged a few months before we did. She wants to go the same route we are, but feels obligated to do the traditional thing, for the family. They are planning a huge wedding and she is miserable. She constantly tells me how she wishes she was bold enough to just do what she wants. I told her this is supposed to be the most wonderful day of her (and her FI’s) life and if she’s happy, her loved ones should be too.
Post # 6
OP, I’m sooo with you. The ceremony is for us, I wish I’d elected to let it be more private… but I didn’t quite realize that was an opton until after I went with the public version. Fortunately I didn’t invite too many people and kept it nice and small. ;D
Post # 7
While I qant both I am more concerned with the ceremony. The ceremony is mostly in my hands while the reception has more issuea involved. I really am trying to go with the flow about it