Stressing out over parents and SO stuff, ugh (vent)

posted 3 years ago in Family
Post # 3
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Creiddylad:  That sounds SO frustrating for you!

I hope he’s already talked to them!

Post # 4
1360 posts
Bumble bee

*hugs* don’t stress out!

About the proposal, as I see it you have two choices. You can straight up ask your SO what’s up (I would do this, but we’ve also been very open about the process since the beginning). OR if it’s supposed to be a surprise and you don’t want to be involved, you’re just going to have to let it go and trust your SO. There’s no use worrying about it and considering hypotheticals, although I totally understand as I tend to do that too 😉

As for your parents, I would have a serious discussion with them about how great he is, how well he treats you, and make it clear that you’re in it for the long haul. My mother changed her attitude once I suggested that a proposal may be on its way – she’s always liked my SO but since then she keeps referring to him as family and talking about our future children. At some point parents have to change their mindset from “he’s some boyfriend” to “he’s the one our daughter will be with for the rest of her life”. Of course, they may take this news badly, but I can only see it as a positive thing that they hear from you that YOU want to marry this man, especially if he hasn’t asked them yet. They need to accept that they are going to have to start liking him, for the sake of their relationship with you. 

Good luck 🙂

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