Post # 1
I need your help. This 1.5 years of wedding planning has been great and FI has been a wonderful help. We are SO EXCITED to be getting married in just a couple more weeks!!!! But now comes all those month-before meetings with vendors… so we met with our venue last night and I had a good idea of everything I wanted (food, decor, shuttle bus, etc. etc. everything lined up), but I was at a complete loss of when all the standard things should be done. We have 4 speeches (MOH, both sets of parents, and us)… all I know for sure is we will do our first dance right after we enter, and I’m thinking MOH speech once soup is served, both parents speeches after the entree is served, and our speech after dessert is served. But when should we do the parents’ dances?! I don’t want to go from our beautiful sappy songs to right into OKAY LET’S PARTY EVERYONE ON THE DANCEFLOOR! That seems weird, no? I haven’t paid enough attention at other weddings to see what others do, I think it’s always different. So now I’m so stressed and for such a silly reason I know! Obviously no one will care that much about the order of events but now I’m worried. Help bees! What order and when did you do: speeches, cake cutting, dances? Thanks 🙂
PS. we will not be doing bouquet toss or garter toss haha phew!
Post # 2
Your speeches sound in a good order!Cake cutting in the UK is done right before the first dance – which is done at the end of the night before the party. Ive been to a wedding in the US and they did cake cutting upon entrance to the reception, followed by speeches in the order you have them. Then they had a first dance followed by parent dances after dinner, before the party. Just have a transition song from sappy to happy thats mellow but happy before jumping into party music!
Post # 3
kristen182: i am pretty sure ours was all out of sorts – we just did what worked with our day…
we had a buffet (late lunch – wedding was at 3:00 pm and reception was in the same location immediately following, and we had to be completely out of the venue for the cleaning crew by 9pm)
as soon as the ceremony was over, the buffet and bar were open – we wanted to be sure that everyone could go ahead and eat and knew we’d have a minute to squeeze in some food after our pics. we went into family and wedding party pics while the guests went ahead and ate…then husband and i did our photos while the wedding party and families went ahead and ate. once we finished the pics, we went in and ate really quick, then headed to the dance floor for our announcement (we didnt’ announce the wedding party) and had our first dance, immediately followed by mother/son and father/daughter dances. once we finished those we went right into fun music and dancing! after about an hour of dancing and fun, we did our cake cutting, and then bouquet/garter toss…and that ended the formalities. the rest was just fun! we did all our speeches the night before at the rehearsal (which, at 60 guests, was half our wedding) so that we didn’t have to take up wedding time with them.
it went rather well. we winged a lot of things so as to not get tied up in all the details and end up stressed.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2013 - A Beautiful converted Barn
looking at it, the order of the day differs quite alot between UK and US brides. a short breakdown of our day (UK bride) – 2pm ceremony, 2.30 drinks reception with photos, 4.45 everyone seated ready for… 5.00 speeches, 5.30(ish) wedding breakfast served (3 course meal), 7:30 eve guests arrive, 8:00 cake cutting, 8:30 1st dance followed by evening reception (party!!) 9:00 hogroast served, 12:00 wedding finished
i think as long as you dont go literally from a slow song into a party tune you should be fine. as the pp said – a transition song will help alot. dont worry, im sure what you have planned will be great – as a guest i think its a given that you accept no wedding is the same, they will go along with whatever happens on the day.
Post # 5
KateA17: blankenshiptobe: weird_bunny: thanks guys! it’s so true that no one will care and everyone just accepts it is what it is when they get there but i still need to make some decisions and stick to it haha, there’s no way we could wing it (or that our vendors would ever allow that, which i appreciate)… definitely seems like UK weddings have a different logistical plan altogether!
Post # 6
This is what we did:
First dance immediately following entrance into reception
Dinner (taco truck, self serve)
Toasts from bridal party (6 total)
Speech from bride & groom
Cake cutting<br /><br />It was a total of 1.5-2 hours. People could still continue eating during all the toasts and dances.
Post # 7
kristen182: Is there a coordinator at your venue? She really pulled it all together in the end- even though I wasn’t sure that was going to happen. Some people tend to seem flakier than they are- and she was awesome the day off.
Even though we had a timeline….we had a couple things go “wrong”– and it wasn’t the coordinator’s fault. It was the people who were physically changing the ceremony room over to our reception room. The doors were supposed to open with sort of a grand entrance (not for bride and groom, just in general)….and it was supposed to be the same time food was out (we did heavy stationed)….but the people opened the doors right away, which was sort of a bummer.
My suggestion to you is to NOT stress out about these little things. Because even if you think you have the perfect schedule down, it might just not happen how you want.
You’ll want to have the mind-frame that things might not go as planned- and not be bummed.
Here’s what went “wrong” on our wedding day:
My cycle was all messed up and I ended up being as bloated as a bride could be, with AF arriving the morning after the wedding. I am *lucky* enough that I gain about 7-8 pounds EVERY MONTH the week before AF. Thank the Lord I opted for a corset dress- or I literally would have been without a wedding dress. Pictures show how bloated I was. At my last fitting I looked like I hot babe. Wedding day I resembled more of a whale- especially in my chest and face.
My SIL’s arrived at the venue a few minutes early for hair, and then IMMEDIATELY left when they didn’t see anyone else there. They totally messed up hair timeline, which in turn meant we missed a ton of photos opps.
My hair was not cooperating the day off- and wasn’t worse than a regular day of me getting up and doing my own. No joke. No exaggeration.
Doors opened at the wrong time.
Limo service was a mess, and dealing with the driver at the end of the evening was a really unfortunate way to end our wedding night.
There are still moments when I see of bloated pic of myself and have a moment. But we were married that day- and that’s all that really matters in the end!
Post # 8
MrsEME: aw I’m sorry you had those things go wrong 🙁 but glad you have the right outlook! That’s exactly it, I know what’s important here but I need to give my vendors itineraries so I need to nail this down haha. If something does happen at a different time, I’m ok with that beacuse it’s not the end of the world! I’d be more dissapointed if it just DIDN’T happen (e.g. missing a speech), which I guess is why I have to provide this timeline to begin with.
We do have a pretty great coordinator at the venue, she was who we met with last night and trying to nail down these timeframes… she gave suggestions, but still kinda left it to me. I just gotta write it down, make a decision, submit it and leave it!!
Post # 9
Our Social Hour starts at 6, and dinner is at 7. This is my tentative schedule:
6:00 pm – Social hour begins (greet guests as they arrive)
- Mark/Paula greet guests as they come in, advise of gift table, guestbook and place cards for meal
6:50 pm – Wedding party announced to walk in (Chase)
7:00 pm – Dinner starts to be served
7:30 pm – Speeches
7:45 pm – Cake Cutting
7:50 pm – Cake is served
8:00 pm – Slideshow starts (approx. 10 minutes)
8:30-8:45 pm – First dance, wedding party, parent dances (both at same time)
9:00 pm – Dance begins for all
Post # 10
I’m not married yet, but our itinerary is as follows:
Wedding party intro
(Not doing parent dances, but we’d do them here if we were)
Dance floor opens