Post # 1
HELLO THERE BEES !! JUST GRASPING IDEAS ,, DOES ANYONE HERE EXPERIENCE TO DUMPED BY FIANCEE JUST BECAUSE OF HAVING STRETCHMARKS….
i saw couple ,, the girl is really amazing and beautiful, she really have a good heart….
she have a great skin before she got married,, it happens that when she got pregnant ,,she suffered from having stretchmarks all over her legs,, deep and dark stretchmarks….
and she really cannot bare the pain inside her,, the feeling of a feminine loss….
but guess what ?? her man still loves her as how he met her before,, he still look at her as a girl who have perfect skin …. and the girl who simply touched his life….
some other man ( not all ),, leave their woman and look for other girl,, just because they can’t find their girl as how they expect it to be ….
any man out there,, please share your stories…. if your girl suffered for stretchmark,, will you still love her or let go of her??
Post # 3
@anna_met: If a man leaves a woman over stretchmarks he’s an absolute piece of garbage. And I sure hope he looks perfect himself for as long as he lives. In answer to your question, no I have not experienced this and I don’t know anyone personally who has.
Post # 4
” the feeling of a feminine loss” wtf does that mean? Considering 100% of women I know have stretch marks — even the super fit or thin ones, it kinda just happens.
Anyone that shallow doesn’t deserve to be in a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.
Post # 5
Dude sounds like a dick. She’s better off without him.
Post # 7
@s2bmrscook: yah you are right !! i tried to post this topic coz it really drives me crazy,, i have known lots of people in my life,, they simply loss their self esteem as a woman because their fiancee can’t bear looking at that lines called stretchmarks…. and after dealing with heartbreaks,, those women simply afraid to try , soar and open their hearts again…. i can tell you really have a good heart ..
this issue sounds odd,, but all guys here ,, really can think about outer beauty….
@stardustintheeyes: i came up for this issue,, coz i have known lots of women in my life,, who suffered heartbreaks and low self – esteem because of this stretchmarks,, it sounds senseless but this happens most…. guys (not all ) are tend to look on outer beauty even as they age….
Post # 8
To be honest I didn’t really understand the post. It seems very muddled.
Leaving a partner because of stretchmarks is weak & really harsh. I’m sorry if that’s happened to you OP.
Post # 9
This is really hard to understand. I don’t know any woman who has suffered hearbreak because of this. Your friends are choosing the wrong men.
and NO, not all men care only about physical beauty. That is pretty offensicve to men. Men are not stupid animals who only care about flawless skin and big tits.
Post # 10
@Soon2BD-CBee: I dnt think English is her first language.. Am I right OP?
Stretch marks are able to be fixed but shallow superficial people cannot be. That type of attitude will get you know where in life. Tell them to wear their marks with pride
Post # 11
I’m 5’7″ and 125lbs pre-pregnancy, and very athletic… And I have TONS of stretch marks!
DH doesn’t even notice them!
Post # 12
@anna_met: Hey! I noticed you are in the Philippines, perhaps there are some cultural differences? The majority of bees on the Weddingbee right now are in the U.S., so we might not be able to relate as much to men abandoning women over stretch marks, but knowing the attitudes of men in Asia, I wouldn’t be surprised if this is much more the case.
Post # 13
@anna_met: I started getting stretch marks in high school. For me it just is what it is. Do I love them? No. Are they on my face and neck? NO!
Sounds like a bunch of idiots.
I do NOT know many people who have been tossed to the wayside because of stretchmarks so you must live in a very different culture than I do. I’d be horrified!
Post # 14
Either OP just put in “Philippines” in her profile, or everyone else ignored or didn’t see it. While English is typically taught as a second language in the Philippines (since western occupations around World War II), many of the people I’ve communicated with there are still not totally fluent.
As far as the question at hand: I can only see young, inexperienced people dumping someone for getting stretch marks. That’s more of a lack of education, I’d say, than completely being a jerk.
I’ll never forget my mom telling me that she saw a medical intern during one of her pregnancies. The guy was horrified and confused when he saw stretch marks on her stomach, and had to ask her what they were.
If it were true that most (or all) men bounced as soon as stretch marks popped out, I’d be totally screwed. Banning the western slang, I mean, “Men would not be interested in me if that were true, because I have plenty of stretchmarks.”
I’m sorry to hear that in your social circle, this is an apparently common problem.
Post # 15
I don’t think there are a lot of guys here to answer you, OP.
I also doubt there are many guys who would leave someone over stretchmarks.
Post # 16
No. I have stretch marks everywhere and my husband loves me and finds me very physically attractive. I’m bound to get more, as I’m currently pregnant.
The man in question here sounds like an absolute loser.