stretchmarks IN …. FIANCEE OUT

posted 3 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
Member
5966 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2017

@anna_met:  If a man leaves a woman over stretchmarks he’s an absolute piece of garbage. And I sure hope he looks perfect himself for as long as he lives. In answer to your question, no I have not experienced this and I don’t know anyone personally who has.

Post # 4
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

What???

” the feeling of a feminine loss” wtf does that mean? Considering 100% of women I know have stretch marks — even the super fit or thin ones, it kinda just happens.

Anyone that shallow doesn’t deserve to be in a healthy, loving, respectful relationship.

Post # 5
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3738 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Dude sounds like a dick. She’s better off without him.

Post # 8
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5087 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

To be honest I didn’t really understand the post. It seems very muddled. 

Leaving a partner because of stretchmarks is weak & really harsh. I’m sorry if that’s happened to you OP. 

Post # 9
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979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

@anna_met:  

This is really hard to understand. I don’t know any woman who has suffered hearbreak because of this. Your friends are choosing the wrong men.

and NO, not all men care only about physical beauty. That is pretty offensicve to men. Men are not stupid animals who only care about flawless skin and big tits.

Post # 10
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1548 posts
Bumble bee

@Soon2BD-CBee:  I dnt think English is her first language.. Am I right OP? 

Stretch marks are able to be fixed but shallow superficial people cannot be. That type of attitude will get you know where in life. Tell them to wear their marks with pride

Post # 11
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11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’m 5’7″ and 125lbs pre-pregnancy, and very athletic… And I have TONS of stretch marks!

DH doesn’t even notice them!

Post # 12
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1500 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@anna_met:  Hey! I noticed you are in the Philippines, perhaps there are some cultural differences? The majority of bees on the Weddingbee right now are in the U.S., so we might not be able to relate as much to men abandoning women over stretch marks, but knowing the attitudes of men in Asia, I wouldn’t be surprised if this is much more the case.

Post # 13
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3735 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@anna_met:  I started getting stretch marks in high school. For me it just is what it is. Do I love them? No. Are they on my face and neck? NO!

Sounds like a bunch of idiots.

I do NOT know many people who have been tossed to the wayside because of stretchmarks so you must live in a very different culture than I do. I’d be horrified!

Post # 14
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1734 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 1998

Either OP just put in “Philippines” in her profile, or everyone else ignored or didn’t see it. While English is typically taught as a second language in the Philippines (since western occupations around World War II), many of the people I’ve communicated with there are still not totally fluent.

As far as the question at hand: I can only see young, inexperienced people dumping someone for getting stretch marks. That’s more of a lack of education, I’d say, than completely being a jerk.

I’ll never forget my mom telling me that she saw a medical intern during one of her pregnancies. The guy was horrified and confused when he saw stretch marks on her stomach, and had to ask her what they were.

If it were true that most (or all) men bounced as soon as stretch marks popped out, I’d be totally screwed. Banning the western slang, I mean, “Men would not be interested in me if that were true, because I have plenty of stretchmarks.”

I’m sorry to hear that in your social circle, this is an apparently common problem.

Post # 15
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6407 posts
Bee Keeper

I don’t think there are a lot of guys here to answer you, OP.

I also doubt there are many guys who would leave someone over stretchmarks.

Post # 16
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2174 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

No.  I have stretch marks everywhere and my husband loves me and finds me very physically attractive.  I’m bound to get more, as I’m currently pregnant.

The man in question here sounds like an absolute loser.

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