Post # 1
I am currently conflicted about a situation that might arise for me in June. My SO has a buddy who had a brush with death earlier this year, and to celebrate life, he has organized a trip to a strip club. The strip club in question features both males and females, and significant others are invited on this trip. The only rule is, no drama.
Now, I am not crazy about SO going, but I trust him and want him to have fun with his friends. He wants me to come, but I’m not sure. I was willing at first, but I think I would feel jealous and territorial, and I don’t want to be That Girl. Of course, the alternative is NOT going and wondering what is going on.
What would you do? We talked about going to a strip club together for me to see if I’m comfortable with the situation beforehand, but I’m not even sold on that…
Post # 2
hike_katahdin87: I’d probably just go. Once you get there, you’ll see what it’s all about and find out that a lot of the dancers aren’t really anything too special, they just have a lot more chutzpah than most people.
Post # 3
Yeah, I’m not crazy about strip clubs, but in this case, I’d go. Thats so good he wants you to be there!
Post # 4
I would encourage my FI NOT to go. He doesn’t like strip clubs, so that wouldn’t be a problem. Who celebrates life by a weekend at a strip club. Eew. I am showing my age…..
Post # 5
hike_katahdin87: You never know, your SO might be the kind of guy who really doesn’t like strip clubs (have you asked him?). i wouldn’t go, because I think they’re gross. But I wouldn’t care if FI wanted to go.
FI went to a strip club for his bro’s bach party. He’s really not into strip clubs and thinks they’re gross, too (this was also his first time going). So he just sat in the back with his uncle, shootin the shit and drinking.
If your SO is anything like my FI, it could be a good opportunity for you to go, hang out with SO, and make fun of the reactions of all the guys getting lap dances- they’re so awkward to watch!
Post # 6
I would go, just to see what it was like. Also I think it would be the lesser evil, would hate to sit at home imagining what DH may be doing!
Post # 7
strip clubs aren’t the big deals that people make them out to be. i say go and have fun, or plan your own fun night with girlfriends to keep your mind off what your SO is doing.
Post # 8
MichiganGirl24: he doesn’t have much experience with them – he went once with his dad as an adult, but was vastly uncomfortable (mostly because it was his dad!) He says he sees it as a sort of awkward, funny experience. I know he wouldn’t buy a dance for himself, but his buddies might, and apparently this place is known for body shots. I just HATE the idea of someone touching him…though I feel better given these responses!
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2014 - Prague
I would go for sure. I’m always up for a new experience. I imagine it could be a really fun, bizarre night out. OR sort of gross, but fascinating? Who knows til you check it out!
Post # 10
- Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas
Go! DH and I have been to strip clubs together a couple of times, and its fun. I really doubt you will be jealous of the strippers lol.
Post # 11
hike_katahdin87: I wouldn’t go. I just don’t feel comfortable. I’d tell everyone else to have a good time. I would talk with FI about my feelings and I have a feeling my FI wouldn’t go. We could do something else special for the friend you are celebrating.
I realize this is a strip club with people of both genders, but I don’t feel comfortable because I see it as objectification and dehumanization of other people and I am just not comfortable with that. It’s very personal.
Post # 12
prahajess: he said I should approach the situation as an anthropological or sociological study…which is one of the zillion reasons I love him!
Post # 13
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
hike_katahdin87: I would go, but I don’t have a problem with DH at a strip club, so I think YOU should not go, don’t (potentially) rain on cheated-death-guys parade!
Post # 14
Just go and hang out with him. Lay down the ground rules before you even leave the house.
Post # 15
hike_katahdin87: Speaking from personal experience, I would go like some other Bee’s have said a Strip Club is not always what you think it is. When my husband and I were younger he went with his buddies to a Strip Club and I was furious. A few years later we were on a date night and he took me to one and it was so not what I imagined, lol…. The strippers were more intersted in talking to me and giving me dances and he was totally ok with it! Needless to say whenever we get a date night we might stop by one just for fun. So now I know that I am okay with my hubby going to a strip club on occasion and in the end it’s really up to you, but I say give it a shot and then you will know if it’s something that you are okay with. Lastly I’m not trying to stir the pot, but guys who say they don’t like or care for strip clubs, idk….. Men are men and they can’t help but like to look at a femalle who is taking her clothes off. Just saying.