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No, I'm not ok with touching. I feel like the "lines" start to get blurry when there's touching. I wouldn't know how to define appropriate touching with a stripper so I just say "no touching whatsoever".
I'm pretty open, I don't mind porn or strip clubs in general, but my rule, like aliciagray, is no touching, period. I would also much prefer a stripclub to a privately hired stripper.
No toucy!
@robin bananas- I totally agree... privately hired strippers are really just prostos.
I was working this batcholor party once (as a bartender at a club) and in the private party room there was all these guys and this one stripper. She was naked like the entire time and i saw a couple very disturbing images includin: The stripper put a condom on the groom to be's FOOT and she... I dont know how to say this nicely... she ****ed it.
no touching! Absolutley not..
@ Miss Pizzelle, eewww! that is just nasty! The things strippers come up with these days *smh*
Im not ok with strip clubs AT ALL.
I think its just disgusting...yuck
@Pizelle - HIS FOOT?!?!?!?!?!? Ewwwwwwwww on so many levels!
I am with everyone else - No touching!
Im pretty open about all that but no touchy the girl you pay to be naked.. god knows how much more she will charge for touching and plus dirty old men have been groping them so thats even more gross... and the foot thing is WAY sick. Now that i think of it, im not so sure my fiance needs to hire a stripper or go to a club since he has me.. haha
I trust Mr. Spaniel to draw an appropriate line for himself (we haven't discussed it), but I would classify myself as being in the look-don't-touch camp as well. ;)
And EW. His foot? I'm not sure I get why that's hot? Blech.
Well Miss Pezzle thanks for not divulging any other stories!!! LOLOL
I'm not too fond of strip clubs or strippers in general, much less touching; I'm just conservative in that sense.
I agree with mmm31911 I wouldnt want my FI to go to strip clubs and touching would obviously be out of the question. Luckily my FI feels the same way I do about them.
Oh my gosh!!! His foot??? hahahah that is so sick. I cant imagine my BF would think that is sexy....
I am definitely not ok with some random woman rubbing her boobs in my FH face. Thats cheating in my book!
I made it very clear that their were to be no strippers involved in his bachelor party in any way. I think it is such a disrespectful practice that men think they need to go out and see or touch strange naked women before they get married. He already told his friends he wasn't going to sacrifice me or his marriage for that, so their going camping.
And I'm a little confused about how a foot would be enticing to a guy?!?! Really?? talk about a pencil down a hallway. Thats just disgusting and disturbing.
I don't care if he goes to a strip club or has strippers at his party. Most clubs have a no touching the dancers policy anyway so it doesnt matter. I'm secure in my relationship not to worry. We go to clubs together anyway.
*shrug* It's not my favorite idea ever, but I am not really bothered by it. He's going to Memphis in May for his Bparty but I am sure his GM will find a way to bring in a stripper or take him to a club. I trust him completely to make the best decision in the situation.
I definitely do not want him touching a stripper. I'm not dumb i know he is going to be going, but its one thing for him to look and another thing for him to touch. I'm not worred about anything happening other than that anyway. His friends are too cheap to "buy" him something and they don't want anything to do with him because he doesn't have any money. lol.
I've got no problem with the "main" room of a strip club, but as my FI has started going to more and more bachelor parties as more of our friends get married, I've realized that I'm a lot less okay with the secluded rooms, and put an absolute veto on hiring a "private" stripper to come to the hotel room or whatever. The impression I get is that when you hire someone to do the private parties, it goes from just a sexy performance to actual sexual acts taking place. So, I'm definitely in the look-but-don't-touch camp.
I don't mind strip clubs, in fact, I've even gone to them a few times in a big group including my fiance, but he knows that I have a problem with lap dances. And if there was actual touching? Hell to the no.
I am not okay with strip clubs at all! Thankfully, neither is FI :)
Absolutely no strip clubs. At all. Period. Luckily, he is not into that & he knows where I stand on it anyways....
@ nakers - I am totally with you on this.
My fiance and I got a lap dance together at the strip club for his bachelor party.. so we were both touching her. It was no big deal - girls dance like that in the regular clubs all the time. The girl was very nice and excited for us about our upcoming nuptials.
We don't have strip clubs here...all of 'those' kinds of clubs DO involve sex acts. FI absolutely knows my anti-room salon stance, and he himself dislikes them.
Horrible story though...a Canadian friend of mine thought it was okay for her husband to get a lap-dance at his B-party. Well, then one of his friends started dating said stripped and INVITED HER TO THE WEDDING. Needless to say...drama ensued.
*shrug* one my friends is engaged and his FI has already vetoed strippers, and it just leaves a "bummer" feeling on the friends organizing bachelor party.
I know and trust my FI and if his friends want to go to a strip club, then I have no qualms ... he can have lap dances if he wants to. I would feel uncomfortable with a private stripper at a house party/hotel room ... just because I know things are a little more risque there.
I honestly do not care about touching a stripper. I personally am ok with going to strip clubs myself... I dont even mind my man getting a lap dance. Funny thing is... he never would. He honestly just prefers to be with me..
I told him go for the strippers at his bachelor party, he said no lol he doesn't want 'em.
Go figure
i have never been worried about this. my FI has only been to a strip club once in his life and he said its just not something he is interested in. and most of his friends are not into that either. so for his bachelor party i am sure it will involve video games, beer, shooting, mayeb fishing. something guy like.
Fi's best man asked me the other day if strippers were ok. I said sure since I figure its more for the single men anyway...(and even though I trust fi bunches, his bachelor party is gonna be a LONG night for me)
But has anyone read this article? It makes me sick...
http://www.cosmopolitan.com/celebrity/exclusive/bachelor-party-stripper-confessions-0305
Im sorry but i simply do not understand why anyone would let their FI think it is ok to have a stripper at their bachelor party. I think its a little nieve to think that they are just all fun and games and nothing every happens. Men that go to bachelor parties go crazy with their friends and most of the time that involves lap dances and touching. I cant understand why anyone would think it was ok for the man they are about to marry to go watch other women get naked and get lap dances from them. For me if my FI had the need to go to a strip club he wouldnt be ready to get married. I cant understand how this tradition got started its just so terrible dissrespecful. To each his own I suppose.
We said no strippers at all for either of us, and we were both happy with that decision. If he really wanted to, I would probably be ok with strip club, but no private rooms or personal hired strippers. I don't think most of his friends are into that stuff, anyway.
I wouldn't want my fiance to have a stripper at his party. There's usually a lot of alcohol involved with those things and I just don't think it's wise to have drunk guy + naked girl together. I feel like it's just creating a situation where something bad is more likely to happen. No matter how much I trust him, even good people make bad choices, especially under the influence of alcohol.
If he did have a stripper, definitely NO touching. It's one thing if he and I decided to go to a strip club, but when you remove one partner from the sexual act I feel like lines are crossed.
I would personally rather have a combined bachlor/bachlorette party. Lots of good friends doing something mutually enjoyable. :-D
i'm soooo not ok with it, but i fear it could happen at his best friend's bachelor party sometime in the coming months. i've never mentioned that it makes me really uncomfortable (there was an incident involving a strip club - we were both there - and it caused me to almost break up with my BF, so naturally, the thought of strip club these days makes me want to vommit), but unfortunately he's the kind of guy that just goes along with the group and will do whatever, particularly after drinking a lot. as much as i trust him, i know him well enough these days to know that he almost never stands up to his friends so he certainly wouldn't turn down a girl if his buddies made it happen. not sure how to approach this coversation though.....
i'm not ok with him touching a stripper. he knows this and would never cross that line, no matter how much alcohol he consumed in the night! i trust him and i'm not naive- we have had multiple discussions and we both know what lines we cannot cross :)
as long as you communicate your limits and are open about it, do whatever you like within those pre-arranged boundaries! as said before, to each their own.
@Miss Pizzelle: Please tell me she didn't put the whole foot in. Please. *gag*
I don't agree with an industry that treats women like that on a fundamental level. So, I wouldn't want my guy to go to a strip club, and absolutely NO touching. Eck. You don't know where those girls have been!
For his first bachelor party, my SO went whitewater rafting. Guys don't need to get their bachelor thrills from women. There are plenty of just-as-fun options that don't involve the promotion of Dirty Old Man Disease.
Thank the Lord my FI does not like strippers or strip clubs. I so would not want to deal with this.
That just sounds creepy...like, "Hey honey, you can touch my ******* it's okay" whatever ** stands for. I'm okay with the attendance of strip clubs, etc in general. I'm really apathetic about it. Honestly, I don't see my husband getting excited about rubbing his hands all over another woman. I don't think he'd EVER do it. It'd weird HIM out more than anything. I don't even care about lap dances, but the explicit "touch me here, it's okay" is a no-no. That crosses the line from "stripper at a strip club" to elliciting for favors almost! Honeslty, he'd be too weirded out himself, no matter how wasted he was, he'd know it was not the right thing to do.
haha i will never look at a foot again the same way - thanks pizelle!!
Agree - no touching. Gross. Not too close either - otherwise a long stick will be dropping those clothes in the trash.
I'm Ok with it as long as lines aren't crossed and I trust him not to cross those lines.
Here's an article that talks about Bachelor Party Ethics from the male perspective. It's from the plunge which has some funny articles.
http://theplunge.com/bachelorparty/what-counts-as-cheating-at-bachelor-party
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are you okay with your fiance touching a stripper if she offers it? how would you react?