(Closed) Strip Clubs & the usual

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
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  • Post # 3
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    Is there a poll? I don’t see choices…

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    I’m sorry I’m having an issue in believing he spent $400 getting his friend lap dances.  In my area lap dances are $20…. his friend got 20 lap dances???

    Last time my FI went to a strip club some of his trashy friends got one of the girls to give them BJs… for $250.  Or your FI could have paid for bottle service if it’s a strip club that allows drinking?

    And don’t even get me started on the makeup – CLEARLY he did something wrong.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I think you should be concerned! He shouldn’t be covering things up to avoid your reaction. IMO spending $400 on lap dances is insane and it’s really hard for me to believe he spent that just on his friend. He shouldn’t have makeup on his shirt or reek of perfume if there weren’t girls on him…rubbing on him. 

    I don’t think his future bachelor should be your worry. I think you have stuff to worry about now with his dishonesty. I feel for you. : (

    Post # 6
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    Bumble Beekeeper

    @rachok:  The thing is, he does not understand or respect why I don’t like them.

    You see I read this and the rest of your post and think but why would he understand/respect why you don’t like them, when you don’t understand/respect that he does.

    I think this is just like the other thread that is going on which is posing the question on why is only the womens opinion/wants/likes valid in terms of the strip club debate!

    Post # 7
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Oh boy here we go again. 

    OP – there are two recent threads about issues like this. I would suggest checking those out as there was some good advice tossed around in them. 

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    He spent $400 bucks… I could care less if DH went to strip clubs but seriously $400.00 I’d KILL HIM.  That’s way too much for even a few lap dances …. that’s like VEGAS strippers in the hotel room giving BJ’s to anyone that wants them.

    I just asked DH and he refused to answer what he thinks went on. 

    Post # 12
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    “Now, I am against strip clubs I’ve always been uncomfortalbe about them and he knows this.”

    And yet, he went anyway? I am appalled! What does this say about his feelings for you?

    It’s time to lay down the law: no more strip clubs ever again. Ever. Not because you are being controlling but because it is so hurtful. Do you do things to deliberately hurt him? No. So why does he do this which hurts you?

    People will probably say I’m a controlling bitch for saying this, but to me it’s about having boundaries in a relationship. We all have boundaries. If YOU don’t like strippers then agree to a boundary with your fiance. Don’t let other women, who are more comfortable with strippers, tell you that you have to allow them.

    If you fiance tramples all over your feelings again after you make this all clear, then I think it is time to reevaluate the relationship.

    Post # 15
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    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @rachok:  Bachelor parties do not need to have strippers. My husband has gone to plenty of bachelor parties without strippers, and has skipped them when he knew there would be strippers. And it’s not just me, whenever a question gets asked “what did your husband to for his bachelor party” it seems like at least half say they did something other than get strippers. Also lots have said that their husband specifically requested no strippers, and I believe it’s a fair request to make.

    So your fiance doesn’t have to have strippers, he’s allowed to tell them to do something else. I’m guessing many men don’t do this for fear of peer pressure. But for me, it’s a matter of putting your wife’s feelings ahead of your buddies’.

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