- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
So I’m sure many know what I’m about to say, if there is posts about this I apologize I’m new to this site and suck at searching.
This past weekend was my best friend’s bachlorette party, it was fun and innocent (went dancing and played silly games and drank wine in the hotel room). My boyfriend also had a bachelor party for his best friend the same night. Now, I am against strip clubs I’ve always been uncomfortalbe about them and he knows this.
I tried to just let it go that they were going, because it was for his friend, and had nothing to do with him really. But I still felt uncomfortable with the idea.
Men like to impress their friends and other men a lot more than women seem to. He has a hard time saying no infront of his friends. So that’s why I was pretty uneasy…
The next day he tried telling me about everything with his friend. I didn’t want to hear it, it made me cringe and think of the day when it’s his turn. He spent $400 getting his friend lap dances and crap. Again, I just smiled and tried not to say much, I knew it wasn’t for him.
The thing is, he does not understand or respect why I don’t like them. He did go one time when he was in training for his job when he was out of town. I was livid, not only because he went but the only way I found out was a receipt in his jeans during laundry time…and what did he try to say? ‘it’s just called’ ****strip it’s not a strip club anymore’. It was a terrible lie and cover up.
This is another issue, he tries to cover up things so I don’t get upset, but the thing is I usually find out anyways then he has to tell the truth and I’m super mad because he lied in the first place. It just makes it THAT much worse. He doesn’t get it.
I’m not trying to make him sound like a bad person, overall he is a great guy.
But again, back to this past weekend. I was doing laundry today and found his undershirt had makeup on it and it REAKS of perfume. He promised he did nothing, no lap dances nothing, He said that they would sit on his lap and he would direct them to his friend. Maybe believeable but the make up is on his UNDERSHIRT, on the collar, along the side, front. That is a little hard to explain from some girl just sitting on your lap for a few seconds, no? I feel sick about it, and to know that he covers up things like this I don’t know what to even feel. Maybe nothing much happened but now seeing this I can’t help but think he did something he KNOWS I would never be okay with. I’m not saying he cheated by any means, but I would expect him to respect how I feel with the whole situation and that I want no stripper touching him or dancing up on him or anything. Call me a prude but that is one thing I do not want in our life.
So…we’re getting married in 2014 and all I can picture is the bachelor party now and his friends and what they might ‘get’ him and I can’t take it. I don’t want to be uneasy and sad right before my wedding. How do I help this? He tells me I can go to a strip club he wouldn’t care but I have NO interest in that at all I have no need, I only want to see him naked not other people. If you get my jist.