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Yea, they are going to a strip club but I have no issues with it. It's just looking, no touching. And I trust him not to do anything stupid. I have even been to this particular strip club with him before.
So no need to worry, they won't even LET the guys touch the girls. And I'm sure you can trust him not to cheat on you.
My fiance already had his bachelor party. We discussed all aspects of it beforehand- I know some people have a "don't ask, don't tell" policy, but we do not operate that way. We share and communicate. It builds the trust even stronger.
I'm not worried about him cheating on me or anything like that... I totally trust him. It just grosses me out. And I'm not sure of the rules in Panama City, Panama... the rules tend to be a bit different in central american countries.
Nope, he doesn't want that. We both feel it's disrespectful to each other for either of us to go to a strip club with men or women "dancing". Not to mention a huge waste of money! JMO!
We aren't naive though in knowing that lots of guys want to show their friend a great time when planning the bachlor party! Which sometimes means they plan to go to the strip clubs. But he has made it clear he doesn't want that. They are doing a poker night for his.
Funny thing was at my sister's hubs bachelor party, they went to a strip club and all the guys were too cheap to even buy her hubs a lap dance. They all ended up leaving shortly afterwards! Too funny!
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I don't think it is necessary about whether you trust your man or not, it's about how you feel about strippers! However, it's interesting that there is so much talk about strippers at bachelors parties and very few at bachelorette parties.
My take:
Bachelor: I don't care what my fiance does, and we have talked about it. He can go to strip clubs, he can buy lap dances, he can have strippers in hotels, etc. It's all fun and game.
Bachelorette: I myself have attended many many bachelorette parties and we do almost everything that guys do at bachelor parties, going to strip clubs, buying lap dances, having private strippers, etc. It's all fun and game. At the end of the day, I don't really want to sleep with these people.
I told my fiance I wasn't comfortable with a hired stripper going to his party, but if he wanted to go to a strip club, that was fine with me. So long as turnabout was fair play, lol. Not that I wanted to go to a strip club, and ultimately neither does he, but I am a firm believer in equality between the sexes, lol.
I have no idea what he's doing for his bachelor party. He doesn't even know, because we're still so far out, but I'm 99% sure it won't be to a strip club.
I didnt ever really care about strip clubs and such, and luckily the FI seriously hates them 
but when i went to Vegas for my bachelorette party we somehow wondered into one (girl strippers) and honestly i was shocked. Maybe its just cause it was VEGAS but frankly they DO let the guys touch and it was just way beyond what i ever thought it was!!!! Then my FI went to a Bach party and they had strippers come to the house (again not worried about the FI) but I saw the pics and umm yea it was def. cheating to me! I couldnt believe what some of the guys were doing with the girls.... 
its really all about YOUR FI though, you have nothing to worry about if he isnt "that guy" . And everyone has a cheating curve. So i guess it is what it is.
I'm anti-stripper, but fortunately FI is too, so the only worry is that his groomsmen may think that he needs strippers anyway. But we live in Oklahoma, so the strippers aren't that exciting. (no full nudity in OK)
i think my guy is even more anti-stripper than i am... so, no worries here.
one of his best friends (and groomsman) had a stripper at his b-party which was planned that way by his gross, creepy father. the guys were so uncomfortable with it the whole time.
My husband went to Montreal for his bachelor party and while they did go to strip clubs, I've been told that those places are a bit on the smelly side...imagine the scent of sweat and fish....yeah, not exactly what I would have imagined, but I can see how it's possible...so I wouldn't dwell on it too much. After all, at the end of the day, he's coming home to you!
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My FI is totally uncomfortable with the idea of strippers. He and his friends went for a really fancy golf weekend (three days of spendy courses and spendy resort hotels) for his bachelor party. The only discussion we had about strippers concerned a friend that he was considering having at his bachelor party, who all the guys were afraid would hire strippers even if they told him not to. He's done it before, and several of the married guys ended up in trouble with their wives. I told FI that if wanted a stripper that was one thing, and I wouldn't necessarily have a problem with that. But I did have a problem if his friend had so little respect for his wishes that he would hire a stripper even if told it wouldn't be acceptable. In the end, they all agreed not to invite that friend, which was just fine with me.
I second karieck05 about it being really disrespectful towards the significant other, bachelor/bachelorette or not.
I third strippers being disrespectful to the significant other...bachelor/bachelorette party or not.
My FI and I are planning on NO STRIPPERS. They are just gross and disrespectful, we both agree on this. My FI went to one bachelor party and the strippers were sooooo rauncy.
However, for both of us people keep insisting they want to get strippers for us even though we have made it very clear we REALLY do not want them. It sucks because I see a problem ahead, but I all know, and I've told those attending my bachelorette party, that I will be pretty pissed if a stripper shows up. So, we'll see....but I see some stormy weather on the horizon...
Lillindy - that was my point exactly. If your friends want to visit strip clubs, that's great, and they should go. But using you as an excuse, when you have clearly said you don't want that kind of thing - what kind of friends are these? Clearly not ones who value your opinion, or care about your level of comfort. My friends want to take me to the Thunder Down Under, and I just can think of so many shows in Las Vegas I would rather see. So - I told them I'm up for the weekend as long as we can pick activities that I'll be happy with - and otherwise they can thunder to their hearts' delight without me. Once you make it clear that you're not going to be pressured into it, and that you'll happily get up and and walk out if it comes to that, it takes a pretty rude person to push the issue. So maybe those people just don't need to be included.
I'm not fond of the idea of a stripper or strippers....whatever....it's so skanky and I'm sorry for using that word, but that's the best word to describe it....why men like strangers rubbing up on them when they have a FIANCE is beyond me....mine used to go and has said it's all in good fun and he's never touched or wanted to touch, but who is to say that if the chick is hot he wouldn't enjoy it.....women are built differently and most of us aren't aroused by a man in a g string shakin his thang in front of us no matter how good looking....so to each her own....if you don' t like the idea you have every right to say so...and he should respect how you feel~ Why allow strippers if they make you feel uncomfortable or insecure...it shouldn't be a difficult decision on his part...if he loves you...and you don't like it...then he won't do it...
I have no problem with the guys going to a strip club -- I've been to a few myself and they really are not all that bad. However, my FH knows I would never approve of them hiring a stripper to come to them -- this type of stripper has a more appropriate name, Hooker. I know my FH well, he will be extremly embarrased at a strip club anyway and he thinks the strippers are more for the other guys at the bachelor party than for the husband to be. They are planning a night of playing poker and then a possible run to some local strip clubs.
Girl I don't care! I trust him and he trusts me. we are going to our respective strip clubs in vegas but of course being a bacholerette party with a bunch of hot girls we are going to be talking WAY more guys that he will be with girls. He wont do anyhting stupid, he loves yoU!
This is what one girl has said. They dot touch!!! MY ASS THEY DONT. for money and to just fuck with the girls heads. Because we are marrying the guy and the reason why they see strippers is because its the last girl they will be with. hint hint. So they groom gets it all and the best man so they keep it away from you. they both get the same treatment and no one rats on the other person. So they go through the wedding then boom you hear the truth somewhere down the line. Then we come on this blog and tell all and other women say its ok. let you man just look not touch.... but if the touch happens THEN WHAT THE FUCK!! i AM SO PISSED ABOUT the stupidity in both men and women.
My ex went for a bachelore party once, where they had 3 girls getting off on each other .. which whatever, thats cool, but than they were giving all the guys tripple blow jobs .. and who payed .. could have more in the back room ... EVEN THE GROOM WENT!!!! ...
So go figure !!!!
In many places, it's just a show where the girls happen to be nude or semi-nude. In my city, there can be no full nudity and alcohol served, which means that if you go to a strip club that serves booze the women are wearing thongs and pasties! Heck, they're wearing as much clothing as you will see on some beaches -- and even more! Lap dances are done in very public spaces and there is little room for people to give "extras."
So, no, not every man touches the stripper and not every club/dancer allows it. Additionally, not all strippers are prostitutes. Anyway, all of that is really irrelevant if someone trusts their partner.
For me, I don't see going to a strip club any more disrespectful then, say, watching a movie with Eva Mendes in it when she's naked. Shoot, a lot of the girls aren't even half as hot as her! lol... I know that the Boy thinks I'm the hottest thing smoking and it doesn't make me uncomfortable if he looks at semi-naked bodies. I don't see it as disrespectful unless it's a habit, or there is extreme touching involved.
I'm just really not worried about it. The FI is not a strip clup kind of guy, but I made it clear it wouldn't bother me either way. I trust him :)
My FH will be going to a strip club for his bachelor's party and I will be going to a male strip club.
I've been to a female strip club before and I know it's just for fun. I know that my FH has no feelings for these girls that dance and FH knows I have no feelings for the guys that dance at a male strip club. So For me, I don't think of it as anything else but for fun.
I heard of some male strip clubs being really gross but the one I'm going to isn't that bad. It's similar to the Chipendales (sp?)
Oh, by the way, I'm going to a male strip club and I know a few of my bridesmaids don't approve of it. I'm not going to force them to go. I will have another 'nice' bachlorette party on another night.
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So, are your fiance's having strippers at their bachelor parties or going to a strip club? Just curious... my fiance is at his bachelor party this weekend so it's on my mind. Argh!