Im going to go ahead and put in my own two cents here, sense I know I am going to have a really unique insite in on it. Sense well, I am an exotic dancer at a topless club.
A good 90% if not more of the time men got to these clubs becuase its an escape from the pressures and/or realities of life for a little while. They can become absorbed into the fantasy world where he is still wanted by women, attractive, successful, ect. When in reality he is 100lbs overweigh, balding, and he has been working at a job he hates for the last 10+ years. He doesnt have to worry about the kids, the home, you, or anything else for the few hours he is in the bar. They get a nice ego boost by having some very very attrative woman hanging on his arm and wanting to dance for him. Then they go home to you all riled up. Other men have fantasies they dont feel comfortable expressing to their significant other, even if they have been married for a long time and are perfectly happy with their marriage. They come to us to live these fantasies out. (this can range from being dominated, being a dom, to a foot fetish, to many other things.) And these bars give these men a safe enviroment to live out at least part of these fantasies or fetishes without cheeting on their wife.
They way I have come to see it is a strip club to a man is kinda like a spa to a woman. You escape reality for a little while, relax, and in the end feel better about yourself.
And to all you ladies who say your so has never been to one or has no interest. I am not saying it is impossible that that has never happened, but I meet many men everynight who openly admit that their wife doesnt know they are there, and would kill him if she were to find out. So loosen up about it. In the end he is coming home to you, probably really hot and bothered. Not to mention they do talk all about you, and sometimes show us pictues of you showing you off to us. Saying dont I have a hot wife? Oh and thats my little boy/girl, ect.
And conidering a good 99% of dancers have a boyfriend, fi, or husband of thier own, I promise the only interst we have in your so is the money in his wallet.
As for my FI, we met at work. He was the dj, me the dancer. And we make it work.
I hope maybe this give all of you some insite into the industry. In the end all we are is hard working women, who bust our but on a nightly basis to pay the bills.