Post # 1
- Wedding: July 2014 - Barn
I just got married last month and all of a sudden I have a HUGE urge to have a baby! I don’t understand it! I always a said that there was a lot to do before having a baby, but now all of a sudden it’s like *poof* and allll of that has gone out the window. It’s complete irrational as I can list 50 reasons why we shouldn’t have a baby right now, but can’t list one reason why we should aside from simply wanting one! Anyway, this urge has completely caught me off guard and was wondering if this has happened to anyone, or if anyone can offer an explanation!
Also, I would like to say my husband is far more rational and we definitely are not going to have a baby before we are both 100% ready to.
Post # 2
That is basically what is supposed to happen. It happens to a lot of people and is not unusual at all.
Post # 3
allinoelle: I think it’s pretty common to want a baby after getting married.
Post # 4
Girl you and me both! We had all these plans to so more traveling etc etc but literally last weekend baby fever hit me like a ton of bricks. crazy! And DH is actually on board and excited! We decided to try for one cycle this month and if it doesn’t happen we will wait until the spring to try again. 🙂
Post # 5
allinoelle: Honey, this is so normal and totally happened with both my sister and I. It’s a very weird phenomenon. When I met my now husband I was positive I didn’t even want kids. When we got engaged, I started saying, “maybe someday but maybe not. Kids are a lot of work, I like to sleep in etc.” Then we got married and I turned into a baby monster. I was just like “My husband will be the best dad ever. I want to raise a kid with him. I can’t wait to see what our baby will look like. etc” It’s so difficult because I know that I want to travel and move to a new city and experience much before I have a baby but this feeling won’t go away and it’s so strong. I’m just trying to control myself and wait for a couple more years (I want to be 29-30 for my first).
My baby fever is pretty cyclical though so it comes and goes with my ovulation I think. Most of the month, I’m okay and then like a week each month, I’m like “Okay, let’s do it. Tonight.” My husband just laughs. Anyway, just try to make a list of things you want to do before having a baby and focus on that. Trips? Paying off debt? Losing weight? Buying a house? Focus, focus, focus. Sleep in until 11 am on saturdays and have breakfast in bed with hubby. Buy WHITE carpet and white couch and enjoy it all while you can 🙂 Once a baby comes, I imagine it will be the best, happiest moment of my life but everything will change and it will never go back so enjoy it all while you can.
Post # 6
allinoelle: I could have written this post. Almost word for word!
Post # 7
What is hard is when you’re actually married and STILL have to wait to try for one because your DH is on a slightly different timeline. That’s hard.
Post # 8
Happened to me too. Husband is on board though.
Post # 9
allinoelle: before we got married, we talked that we’d wait about a year and a half before trying. Then we got married, and it turned into 9 months, and then it turned into 6 months, and then it turned into NOW. We’ve been married for 3 months, and my thoughts have shifted to ASAP. He’d prefer we wait until the house sells and we’re in a new one to really try, but is okay with just not actively trying not to conceive for the immediate future.
Post # 10
- Wedding: July 2014 - Barn
Thanks everyone for replying! I’m glad I’m not the only one, I was pretty surprised when 3 weeks after the wedding I started reallllly wanting a baby.
FutureMRS3lastnames: This is exceptionally helpful! I do think it’s about keeping your goals in perspective and not just rush to the next stage.
We’ve decided to have some adventures, save for a house, and will hopefully try for a baby in the spring.
Post # 11
Oh man I’m the same way!. We have been married 2 months, and everywhere I go I’m scoping out the little babies and pregnant mamas haha. but, I do let myself sleep in late on the weekends, watch movies and read books, and do crafts, which I know I won’t have much time for after a baby! But man, it’s hard to fight that BABY FEVER
Post # 12
allinoelle: Firstly, it’s genetic, especially when you’re in a stable situation and your body knows it.
Post # 13
Ugh, yes. Yeah, I’ve been married a little over a month and I’m so weirdly ready even though I know I need to get farther in school first. When we were dating, I always said I didn’t want a baby and found it annoying that he found that annoying.
It all changed for the worse when my childhood friend got pregnant. We went to visit her and her husband and shopped with her for baby things. It was painful. Here were are, just having bought a new car, with a decent amount of money, health insurance, two full-time jobs and then there they were with a beat up old Honda, a pit bull with behavioral problems that bites and knocks people over that they refuse to get rid of after not training it well, one job between the two of them and just happy as unprepared clams. The baby things she had were adorable and though I’m terrified for this girl to be a mother (long story, but it involves eating a lot of sandwich meat with nitrates, tons of Mcdonald’s and doing things her doctor asked her not to, like being in the heat and then going into pre-term labor and THEN not taking bed rest seriously), but I’m also kind of excited and very jealous.
My husband is starting to get a little freaked out by my constantly wanting to discuss baby names. Zelda and Holden, by the way. Also, boy or girl their room will have a woodland animal theme.