Post # 1
My FI proposed last week and it was wonderful and amazing…and I love him. I have never really cared about the ring…or so I thought…but now I find myself wigging out over the stupidest thing!
FI and I went ring hunting, found a band that I fell in LOVE with, and he was going to have a friend of the family who owns a jewelry story re-make the band for less cost. yay!
Only problem is…the jeweler got it wrong. completely. The wrong ring was made; jeweler offered to re-make it at no charge knowing that he’d made a mistake. No big deal, right?
But vacation was coming, and FI knew how much I wanted the proposal to happen there so he took the “mistake” ring and proposed with it and told me that the ring could be re-made if I wanted the original band.
So here I am…completely torn because on one hand, I want the ring he proposed to me with… but on the other hand, it’s not like he even picked this ring out… the design is basically meaningless. It would be one thing if he’d picked this ring out… but the jeweler simply messed up, and now I’m completely torn. I feel petty for partly wanting the ring re-made; I feel guilty because then it wouldn’t be the ring he proposed to me with!
Is it petty of me to have it re-made…should I shut up? I wish i knew why it was bothering me so much >.<
Original Ring I fell in love with (blurry pic I know…):
“Mistake” Ring he proposed with:
Side view (You can see it is VERY tall and thick):
Post # 3
I don’t think you are being petty. Get the ring you were meant to wear! Esp if your FI is supporting you. Don’t settle because the jeweler made a mistake.
Post # 4
have it remade. You’re right, its not like your FI picked it out and you just don’t like his taste. Its not what he paid for, they messed it up! I guess I don’t see the problem as a problem. Get what you want!
Post # 5
Yeah, I agree with everyone else so far. It’s not petty. It was a simple mistake on the part of the jeweler, and it shouldn’t be a big deal to get the one you two actually agreed on.
Post # 6
i would definitely have it remade.
Post # 7
I don’t think it’s petty because your fiance obviously valued your opinion on the style ering he was going to purchase for you. You found a style you loved & the jeweler made a mistake. So, while, yes, maybe you are losing the sentimental value, this ring isn’t what either of you picked out. Can you use the same center diamond? At least you can hold on to that as a part of the original proposal.
Post # 8
Def have it remade to the one you love. Can you keep the center stone and just put it in the new setting so then atleast you have the diamond he proposed with? I think you will be kicking yourself if you keep the ring you don’t like as much later down the line. And better to fix it sooner than later.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone else. The jeweler made a mistake, let him fix it.
Post # 10
I agree with pps. If you do not like the ring, I would have the correct ring made and exchange the one on which the jeweler erred. I do think the rings are both beautiful and are very similar, but I totally understand your being bothered by the differences.
Post # 11
Thank you guys! I feel a lot better now. Yes, I will have the same Center stone, which is the one he picked out with his brother in law and the jeweler specifically. So, that will not change, which is good because I love the stone!!
Post # 12
I would definitely get the ring you really wanted!