Post # 1
This is gonna sound weird but humor me. I think the biggest thing I’m struggling with wedding wise is feeling self centered. Obviously the wedding is to celebrate my marriage but I feel like asking people to help would be a burden and feel wrong asking people to pour money and energy into what is basically a party for me. Also, people talk about doing a slideshow, or couple facts, etc. Though I have amazing supportive friends I can’t help but think, does anyone really care to see pics of me and my so growing up, or random facts about us?
Is it normal to feel uncomfortable about this or do I have some kind of issue haha
Post # 2
Completely normal. I didn’t bring up the wedding unless people asked for that same reason. I thought i would sound “braggy”. We also didn’t really ask for money. We did approach our parents and ask if they were thinking of contributing but made it very clear that they didn’t have to – we just didn’t want to insult them by not asking. If that even makes sense.
We didn’t have a slideshow because I didn’t want one. No one offerred to make one anyway, so that worked out.
Post # 3
Totally normal! My husband was the same way. He hates attention and didn’t even want to have a wedding. However when people insisted and we realized that they genuinely wanted to help us, it was easier. I never posted anything on Facebook about the wedding and I didn’t talk about it unless people asked because I know that when it’s not your wedding, you’re just not as excited about it (except for me, I love hearing about other’s weddings!) People will most likely offer to help or pitch in, so if they do, accept their offer. If you’re really uncomfortable with asking for help when nobody offers and you feel like you may need it, see if your FI will ask instead.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - Church
nestle: I know exactly what you mean … It can definitely be really hard if you are someone who does not like being around a lot of people and/or having a lot of attention. How I think of it is this … The slideshow? If you are doing a cocktail and then dinner the slideshow is something new that people can talk about and keeps people from being bored. It is not something that anyone has to pay attention to – but it is there. As for the asking for help … chances are there will be people jumping up and down who cannot wait to help you out. Take a few minutes to yourself, take a deep breath and clear your head, because it’s okay.
Post # 5
Whew! Glad I’m not alone!
I’ve had people volunteer to help (I go to one of those churches where prople are close like family) it’s asking people to be my bridesmaids and stuff that I worry about. Bc at that point they’re kind of expected to help and I don’t want them feeling obligated though I’d feel honored to have them next to me on my big day.
As far as the family thing, long story but my family will not be attending. His family will. We’re paying everything ourselves.