Struggling with being the focus

posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
1473 posts
Bumble bee

Completely normal. I didn’t bring up the wedding unless people asked for that same reason. I thought i would sound “braggy”. We also didn’t really ask for money. We did approach our parents and ask if they were thinking of contributing but made it very clear that they didn’t have to – we just didn’t want to insult them by not asking. If that even makes sense. 

We didn’t have a slideshow because I didn’t want one. No one offerred to make one anyway, so that worked out. 

  • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  MrsCallalily.
Post # 3
4147 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Totally normal!  My husband was the same way.  He hates attention and didn’t even want to have a wedding.  However when people insisted and we realized that they genuinely wanted to help us, it was easier.  I never posted anything on Facebook about the wedding and I didn’t talk about it unless people asked because I know that when it’s not your wedding, you’re just not as excited about it (except for me, I love hearing about other’s weddings!) People will most likely offer to help or pitch in, so if they do, accept their offer.  If you’re really uncomfortable with asking for help when nobody offers and you feel like you may need it, see if your FI will ask instead.

Post # 4
1629 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014 - Church

nestle:  I know exactly what you mean … It can definitely be really hard if you are someone who does not like being around a lot of people and/or having a lot of attention. How I think of it is this … The slideshow? If you are doing a cocktail and then dinner the slideshow is something new that people can talk about and keeps people from being bored. It is not something that anyone has to pay attention to – but it is there. As for the asking for help … chances are there will be people jumping up and down who cannot wait to help you out. Take a few minutes to yourself, take a deep breath and clear your head, because it’s okay.

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