Post # 1
Has anyone else struggled with finding a dress? I’ve tried on at least 20 dresses, which seems crazy to me. I love clothes and fashion – I even work at the corporate office of a fashion retailer. I am not very wishy washy about what I think looks good on me or doesn’t. I would define my fashion as classic but adventerous. Crazy colors, prints, textures – I have no fear. And my FI and parents always tease that I can ALWAYS find something to buy.
But now that I’m buying a wedding dress…
Nothing has made me swoon or get emotional or excited. I’ve tried dresses on that look good and are amazing, but nothing that has felt like a version of me. The only few take aways I have at this point are that heavy fabrics (satin, taffeta, etc.) are a big fat NO and light fabrics (tulle, chiffon, lace, etc.) are a YES; ballgowns look silly on me and a sweetheart neckline is probably best.
I have fallen in virtual love with some dresses online, but stores don’t have anything like them for me to try on either because of size or just their inventory assortment. Having a dress custom made terrifies me – what if it doesn’t fit when I get it? what if what I thought would look good actually looks terrible? I’ve asked my 2 BFF’s and 1 is trying to push her wedding ideas on me (which are not me at all) and the other says to just keep trying dresses on. And my Mom…let me just tell you that she thinks she can wear capri pants as regular pants because she’s 5’4…she’s not exactly helpful either.
Does anyone have any words of advice? Or know where I can order dresses that I might be able to return? I’ve attached some pics of looks I love.
Post # 2
Hey calm down! There are a gazillion dresses out there. You just haven’t yet found “the one”. Some peole get it right in an instant and some peole take considerably longer (bit like findng the right bloke) but there is no need to panic because your options are not restircted. You alreay have a sense of what you are looking for. So enjoy the search! Twenty down and ? to go!
Post # 3
Try looking at A lines, since that seems to be mostly what you are posting. Also… I must have tried on 30 dresses before buying a dress based off a picture on a website that was exactly what I was dreaming of. Since I found that dress, I haven’t looked at another dress.
You’ll find it. Sometimes it just takes time.
Post # 4
That first dress is to die for, but all of them are beautiful. And similar. And ballgowns.
So how’s come you tink you don’t look good in a ballgow? That’s all that you’ve shown us!
Post # 5
I think I’ve tried on upwards of 50 dresses.. still not sure if I’ve found my dress, but I have 2 favorites so I think I’m going to pick one. I went to 2 different cities and went to almost every dress store in each, so I think I’m about out of options! I did go from liking ballgowns (still think they look great on almost everyone but not really on me) to loving trumpet lace dresses. I think you should keep trying on more, but spread out the shopping so it isn’t too overwhelming.
Post # 6
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I promise when you find the dress you will know. Don’t push away the other fabrics. They may be just what you never knew you wanted. Remember it’s all about the feeling first. If you love how you feel in the gown your beauty will shine. When I first tried on a wedding gown it was a ballgown. Not a huge princess skirt but it was full. I tried on a size 30 that wouldn’t even zip up my back. I cried. Not because it was a size 30 but because my shape was totally transformed. I’m an apple shape and couldn’t believe I had a waist. Just like you I didn’t want the heavy fabrics. However, the heavier fabrics are what held me in better. Fast forward to June of this year. I had weight loss surgery and I tried on an A-line gown and cried some more. I couldn’t believe that I was now in a 22 that would probably be too big for my by my wedding. Yet, I loved how I felt in my gown and purchased it. Chances are it doesn’t even fit me now much less next April. Yet, I loved how I felt in my satin A-line with a corset back.
Post # 7
Thanks to all for your amazing feedback and encouragement. I was starting to feel down on myself, which is so not like me. I am SO GLAD I found this blog and all you ladies! Also, are the pics I sent a-line or ballgown? Peole called out both and I want to use the right verbage.
observer: My panic was noticable huh? Thanks for the advice. I’ll keep plugging away. Love the guy & dress analogy.
aithinne: A line, huh? I will try. I’ve tried mostly fit & flare because that what every bridal consultant keeps sticking me in. I’ve tried one a-line and I really liked it, but my BFF’s said they thought the more fitted dresses looked better on me. I will keep trying though – maybe it just wasn’t the one. Thanks!
FauxPas2012: The first salon I went to I tried on a ballgown and I looked like the most sparkly marshmallow you’ve ever seen. But it was the only one I’ve tried, so maybe I should give it another shot? And that first dress is what I DREAM of. That dress makes me wonder if I should go custom. That picture is what I want my whole wedding to feel like. *SWOON*SIGH*
aec2003: Great advice. I live right next to San Francisco, so I should probably get in the car and cross a bridge, huh? I may also just go alone – clear some of the voices and go with what I truly love.
angyjaxon: I’ve tried on a few heavier fabrics. I hadn’t written them off until I had tried on a few. I assumed I end up in a heavier material for the reasons you mentioned. Even in ones where the cut is great, there is something that is just too weighty; or I’ll try on a similar dress in a lighter material and it just sits on me better. Plus our wedding is at the end of May 2015, so light makes sense for the season. Congrats on your weightloss and dress success!