- 7 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I will try and keep this brief with giving as much history as I can. My parents have been divorced for the majority of my life. I grew up with my mom and step dad, who i consider my dad. I have always had a good relationship with my biological father but more of a friendship not paternal. My biological father lives with his mother, my grandmother and has for all of my life. I had a very close relationship with my biological father’s dad while growing up, he passed away over 10 years ago.
Fiance and I got engaged August 2010 and begin planning our wedding. We choose to not have kids at our reception. This created alot of tension between my biological dad and grandmother and myself. They feel a wedding is for all of your family and can’t believe how selfish I am acting. My grandmother called and yelled and screamed at my telling me she was not coming to the wedding if my cousins were not invited. After talking to my biological dad and listening to his reasons agaisnt my want we agreed to invite those 2 cousins.
So I was under the impression everything was fine, they got what they wanted and I wasn’t going to let it ruin my wedding day. 2 weeks ago my grandmother showed up at my house uninvited when I got home from work. She came into my house and unloaded on me she feels I have treated her over the past few years. She doesn’t like the presents I have given her, I have caused her depression, the unimaginable she said to me. She was also mad because I did not send her a birthday card. I explained to her I did not send her a birthday card because she was hurtful to me and upset me when she called and yelled at me and told me she wasn’t coming to the wedding.
Fast forward to yesterday, two weeks after she came to my house. She comes to my work and started yelling at me again about the same things she yelled at my for at my house plus now she is demanding a birthday card from me even if it says belated because she feels she deserves one.
I’m sorry bees for this being so long but I need your advice. This isn’t normal right? I dont want anything to do with her right now, because I think she is mentally unstable. I talked to my biological father last night and told him all of this and he understands my feelings. Am I an awful person for not wanting that negativity and hurtfulness in my life. I love my grandmother but there is only so much verbal abuse I think I can take.