Post # 1
I’m feeling very torn lately and looking for some words of encouragement.
My husband and I had decided together that we would start trying for a family the first of the year. However, I am currently in the running for a great new job (i had applied a year ago and they kept my resume on file and reached out to me). I have a 4th interview next week so I am feeling pretty good with my chances. This new job would be a 30% increase in pay, but more than that it would be a great step for my career.
The part I’m struggling with is that we have to push back our plans for a baby. I wouldnt be eligible for FMLA leave until I have been there for 12 months, but I also dont want to start working there and 3 months later announce that I’m preggers. I also know that it could take a while to get pregnant, so all this worrying could be for nothing.
I dont know why, but I feel very unsettled lately. So much seems up in the air and as someone who has had her life totally mapped out I dont like this feeling.
Post # 3
I say that unless you have a dire need to have a baby right now (medical issue that may prevent it later, age, etc) then I would go for the job. In the long run the pay increase will be better for your family and you will more likely be happier with the career advancement. I understand not wanting to announce you’re pregnant after 3 months, but it happens. You could always wait a little longer if it would make you feel more comfortable. A year is nothing. Go for it!
Post # 4
@adoc86: I know, you are right. it’s just that I have such badddddd baby fever! it’s literally all I think about.
Post # 6
As someone who was literally in your exact spot (we were going to start trying in the fall, but I got a new job in july), I say see the job thing through. When you do have the baby you’ll have to take time away (not sure what you get in your state, but in Canada we get a full year off), and then if you plan on having a second relatively close. ..that’s a decent amount of transition ramp-up/ramp-down time in your career, which is therefore time it’s unlikely you’ll be getting a promotion or raise….better to be in the best spot possible going in.
Post # 7
I would do both. Start the new job, try to conceive, and see where it takes you. Even if you start trying to get pregnant immediately AND are successful, you wouldn’t need to take FMLA for another 8 months or so…so you could always just start trying to conceive in a few months instead of right now.
How old are you?
Post # 8
@peachacid: Ya, thats what I am thinking. If we start trying in the spring instead then I’ll be ok with the leave.
I’m 29. I just stopped my BC last month after being on it for 10 years to give me body a break and also get my period etc. back to normal.