(Closed) Struggling…

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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5993 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

sending hugs Liz… i agree with alot of things you say so try not to be too upset….

 

Post # 4
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6010 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

I’m sorry you’re feeling so upset, litzwintz.  I do agree with you that tone and message don’t translate well over internet message boards.  Sometimes I get upset, too, when I read a response that I feel is an attack on me or my views.  It’s hard to remember that just like my comments might be misunderstood, I might be misunderstanding someone else’s meaning in their responses.  Sometimes I feel like the comment was personal, when often it’s just someone expressing different views, ones that they feel as passionately about as I do.

I hope, that with a little time, you won’t feel so bad.  I always try to keep in mind that the way I’m reading a comment may not be the way it was intended to come across.  But that doesn’t always make me feel better, so when things still bother me, I close the thread.  Sometimes out of sight = out of mind.  Like you said, we’re all here to support one another, even when we disagree.  πŸ™‚  I feel like the support received here is one of the best qualities of WB; it’s what sets us apart from all the others!

Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I am so sorry about that. I know I did mention you in my follow up post, but only because I thought highly of you for saying your feelings about it without being mean, that’s all! Take it as a compliment I guess? It certainly wasn’t meant by any other means. If you are still bothered, feel free to PM me. I really didn’t mean anything negative by it.

I totally respect anyone who feels the way that you do. Try not to take it as a personal attack; some boards can get really hot, especially when things are taken out of context and/or are inflammatory in general and there is always a plethora of peoples’ opinions. I’m a little extra irritable/short today in general b/c it’s my dead brothers’ 21st birthday and I probably should refrain from boards in general today buuuuut it’s a distraction.

And I’m sorry you feel like you have to explain yourself in order to get your point across. You really don’t have to! That makes you who you are though and what your beliefs are. Kudos for being strong =].

Post # 7
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I feel much better knowing you didn’t think I personally attacked you! Thanks for sharing =]

I think you being 39 gives you a little more perspective on the world than us fresh kids in our 20’s. I bet a lot of our opinions change and evolve as we grow and watch our friends struggle in their marriages and pick them back up, dust them off, and send them back out into the world, too. It’s good to remember that. I always tell myself that none of us are invincible and/or not prone to any of these bad things that happen. It’s an eye opener for sure and I’m sorry you had to go through that! It has made you stronger and wiser

Post # 8
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

@liztwinz – I don’t think you should ever have to explain your feelings, or why you feel that way, to anyone. Everyone has a right to their opinion and should be allowed to voice it without being flamed, even if it’s not how the majority feels. You can feel however you want about the subject – you have a total right to that! 

In other news – your wedding is SO close!!!! Are you excited?!

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee

Liz, I just want to say that i read your post, respect your feelings and understand why you feel the way you do.  I hope you feel supported on these boards and you should be proud to be taking this next step with your FI with confidence and grace.

PS – 6 wks to go for us…but whos counting ; )

Post # 12
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14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

@litzwitz, let’s switch houses. I just hand buffed and polished my kitchen floor and gave my house a top to bottom =]

Post # 13
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3098 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2009

Oh lord!!! Hahahah!! That hiney story is hilarious! Just something I get to look forward to in the future, lol! 

You DO have a lot going on…. you can do it, no worries. I’m glad you’re excited!! 

Yep, I am right behind you and I’m just more terrified than anything, lol!! I swear to you, if I can plan this thing, I can do anything in the world! πŸ™‚ 

Post # 14
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751 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

agree

Post # 15
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7082 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2009

Hey Liz, I wanted to give you a hive hug and tell you that I really appreciate the way you expressed your feelings.  Your post is an example of how to do so without hurting anyone else.  I also come away with a deeper understanding of where you are coming from, and I really like that.

Aside from that, try to carve out some personal time for yourself in the coming weeks!

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