- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2010
My father and FI are butting heads lately and I am stuck in the middle.
FI is driving me crazy lately. We are remodeling our house and we took on a lot of projects for just the two of us. My dad has offered to help and has cleared his nights and weekend for the next month to make sure that everything gets done. FI is in construction and my father is not so the two have different ideas on how they want everything done. Well FI has suddenly become an extreme perfectionist, I think because it is his house. So he wants everything to be perfect (which is understandable) but it has to be done exactly his way or its not right.
So FI is getting so upset over the way my father has done some projects in the house and he wants me to tell him we don’t need any more help. How do I do that? My dad obviosly knows we need an extra hand.
Also last night my dad and I were in our laundry room and he was asking what type of shelves, table, etc. I wanted to put down there. FI seemed really flustered and was like this isn’t a priority now. So after I pulled him aside and asked him what the hell his problem was, his answer was this is out house and I want to make the decisions together (he will never go in a laundry room). And then he asked me me, “do you think I can’t do that for you?”. It’s like FI feel that it’s now his job to take care of me and that he no longer wants my father to do anything for me.
I’m really sick to my stomach because these are obviosuly two guys I love and I hate the anomosity between them right now. They have always had a great relationship.