(Closed) Stuck in a friend love/hate triangle!

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
Member
612 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would talk with her and let her know that you are feeling a little left out of her new life.  It could really be that she just wants to hang out with someone else who is single and do single things.  Would you really want to go to a bar and talk to guys all night, probably not!  Sometimes friendships fluctuate and right now this might be a lull for the two of you, but it could pick back up again soon.  Try not to let this new friendship destroy what you already have with her.  In the meantime look to your other friends as support, not to talk about her with but as support to hang out with.  Good luck and I hope y’all patch things up soon!!!

Post # 5
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1104 posts
Bumble bee

Friendships aren’t static, they change and evolve and go through lulls like any relationship. I wouldn’t write your friend off as a bitch just yet, if you have been friends for so long and really care about her. Next time you suggest a get together maybe say you miss her, you know things might be different now you’re engaged but you really value her friendship and would love to hang out. I think putting it out in the open is a good idea, depending on how she responds to that then you can decide how you want to proceed.

Post # 6
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191 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I’ve been in that exact situation and it really really sucks. I would defintiely recommend waiting to ask her to be a bridesmaid until you are 100% sure that it will be the right decision for you. I’m stuck with the two girls who don’t even talk to me anymore as my bridesmaids (for now).  You should try to sit down with her though and let her know that you’ve been feeling left out and hurt, try not to accuse her of anything though, and hopefully she will realize how much she’s been hurting you and you guys can move past this. Unfortunately, in my situation the discussion didn’t do anything and we’ve since drifted more, but in most cases communication can make a huge difference and she probably doesn’t even realize she’s been leaving you out. Good luck!

Post # 7
Member
540 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I’ve also been in a similar situation. I basically poured my heart out and things started to look up for awhile and then went back down when she tried to tell me that I would fall on my face if it weren’t for my husband, then fiance. Try not to let it get you down. Realize that you have someone special (your fiance) and she might be jealous or she might feel like you don’t want to hang out with her. It will get better. I used to cry everyday about it, but then I realized that my fiance is my best friend and I have way more fun doing things with him, even if its not that often.

Post # 8
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273 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

it sounds like she’s newly single since you wrote “new single friend” and that may be why she’s hanging with the other single friend more.  it can be hard to be around happy couples after a break up.  talk to her and give her some time.

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