Post # 1
I am here asking you ladies for advice, help, suggestions, and honesty. I have been with my FI for 2 years. Everything was great at the start, and its still really good. However, when we go out, I know longer get “hit on”, I know people may think its because you are wearing an engagment ring, but still….. I want to feel “sexy, or desired by other men. Is that weird or strange? I want to know that I still turn some men on rather then my FI. I have even gone to the lengths of thinking to take the ring off when going out by myself to see if anyone does “hit on me”. Please help me, what am I thinking, is this rude, or normal? Maybe I am thinking this all because at the start and even up till the engagement we were being intimate together at least 5 times a week, now its twice, if that and I am often the person who has to start it and when we are intimate he only last 5-10 minutes whereas before it would be much longer. Bees I need you…. HELP ME
Post # 3
I think that everyone WANTS to feel attractive and desired. However, once engaged or in a serious relationship, you need to teach yourself how to want to feel attractive to your SO and not give a damn what anyone else thinks. It’s not easy, but you have to just practice at it. Everytime your SO gives you a compliment, thank him and mean it. Then let it set in how he thinks you are beautiful, wonderful, etc. Once you are able to get out of your own head (I don’t mean this in a mean way), I bet the sex frequency will go back up!
Lastly, please don’t take your ring off to try to get hit on, if your fiance found out, I bet he would be extremely hurt. (As an example, how would you feel if he switched his FB status to single for a few hours just to get hit on, even if he didn’t do anything else.) Good luck and remember, he loves you and thinks you are the world!
Post # 4
I do not think you are weird or strange 🙂 But, I dont think you should enourage others to flirt with you or take your ring off because I think that if your FI found out about these behaviors he would be very hurt. I think you need to reflect on why you need attention from others. Try to work on being happy with yourself and with the confidence that your FI loves you and then it wont matter what others think. Put the thought and effort you are wasting trying to get others to flirt with you into you flirting with your FI. It might help reignite the spark 🙂 Good luck.