"Studies Confirm: Kids Ruin Your Life"

posted 3 years ago in Parenting
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods

That article is taking it out of context. Here is a less biased version of that study:
 http://esciencenews.com/articles/2014/01/14/americans.with.and.without.children.home.report.similar.life.satisfaction.more.positive.and.negative.emotion

“…factors such as higher educational attainment, higher income, better health and religiosity all enhance life satisfaction and that, once these are taken into account, parents and nonparents have similar levels of life satisfaction.”

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I don’t think kids ruin one’s life; I think they *change* one’s life. 

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I second PP. “Ruining” and “drastically changing” are two completely different things.

Post # 6
cherrypieBee
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

I’m a firm believer that happiness is far from circumstantial: it is a choice. That is not to say that lives aren’t influenced by difficulty or tragedy, but ultimately they are what we make them. I think kids add a layer of complexity to the happiness equation (which is already complex and subjective), but it’s ridiculous to see them as a quantifiable variable in happiness influence or something equally mathematical. That’s not how life works.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Meh. Ignore. What’s good for one person isn’t always good for the next. I wouldn’t be offended your friend posted this at all, btw. She sounds mature enough to realize what you think is best for your life and she is respectful and supportive of it. Her posting this article relates to herself and her resonation with it as it applies to her. Just give her the same respect and support in her choice and reasons not to reproduce. 

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Commenting bc I need to read this later…

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I read the title of the study out loud and DH laughs and says “wellll, YEAH! DUH!” Coming from two full time working and stressed newlywed parents of FOUR children, I’m inclined to believe that the grass is in fact greener on the other side…sometimes. In reality, both paths bear green grass and certain benefits and liabilities along the way…

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I think deciding to have children is just a change. Whether it’s a positive one or a negative one is up to you. If I were to have a child right now, it would ruin my life. I’m not established in my career and I just finished my education. We cannot afford a child. And I don’t know if I even want children yet. But I’ve known some women who say “I’ve always known I wanted to be a mother. My kids are my life.” I think it’s to each their own. 

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