Post # 1
Has anyone seen this article?
First off, I feel like they’re saying a lot without really saying anything conclusive. And this seems more like a self-report correlation study which doesn’t mean a lot to me.
I am planning on having kids, and I know it’s going to be an adjustment but it’s one I’m happy to make. However, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with people who don’t want to have kids. Both choices are totally acceptable and fine. I just feel like this article (and especially some of the comments) are very harsh towards people who do chose to have kids (especially the use of the term ‘breeder’).
The other thing that really bothers is that this was posted by a friend of mine whom I know does not want children but is a big advocate of me having them, in fact we talked about it last week. I’m sure she wasn’t thinking about me when she posted but it does bother me a little.
I’m not posting this as an “pro-kid vs no-kid” situation but I’m just wondering what other people think about the article.
Post # 3
- Wedding: August 2013 - backyard in the woods
That article is taking it out of context. Here is a less biased version of that study:
“…factors such as higher educational attainment, higher income, better health and religiosity all enhance life satisfaction and that, once these are taken into account, parents and nonparents have similar levels of life satisfaction.”
Post # 4
I don’t think kids ruin one’s life; I think they *change* one’s life.
Post # 5
I second PP. “Ruining” and “drastically changing” are two completely different things.
Post # 6
- Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park
I’m a firm believer that happiness is far from circumstantial: it is a choice. That is not to say that lives aren’t influenced by difficulty or tragedy, but ultimately they are what we make them. I think kids add a layer of complexity to the happiness equation (which is already complex and subjective), but it’s ridiculous to see them as a quantifiable variable in happiness influence or something equally mathematical. That’s not how life works.
Post # 7
Meh. Ignore. What’s good for one person isn’t always good for the next. I wouldn’t be offended your friend posted this at all, btw. She sounds mature enough to realize what you think is best for your life and she is respectful and supportive of it. Her posting this article relates to herself and her resonation with it as it applies to her. Just give her the same respect and support in her choice and reasons not to reproduce.
Post # 8
Commenting bc I need to read this later…
Post # 9
I read the title of the study out loud and DH laughs and says “wellll, YEAH! DUH!” Coming from two full time working and stressed newlywed parents of FOUR children, I’m inclined to believe that the grass is in fact greener on the other side…sometimes. In reality, both paths bear green grass and certain benefits and liabilities along the way…
Post # 10
I think deciding to have children is just a change. Whether it’s a positive one or a negative one is up to you. If I were to have a child right now, it would ruin my life. I’m not established in my career and I just finished my education. We cannot afford a child. And I don’t know if I even want children yet. But I’ve known some women who say “I’ve always known I wanted to be a mother. My kids are my life.” I think it’s to each their own.