Stumped on guys' attire!

posted 3 years ago in Grooms/men
  • poll: Which option would you choose?
    Groomsmen wear own black suits/FI in light grey : (20 votes)
    49 %
    Groomsmen rent or buy charcoal suits/FI in light grey : (20 votes)
    49 %
    Third option? Please tell! : (1 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    mswallabyBee
    2070 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2012 - Oak Tree Manor

    I voted for the guys to wear black suits that they already own. I’ve seen it done well at so many weddings online, and even a few in real life – and I think it looks great. The J. Crew dusty shale color actually looks great with black – a couple of my BMs wore J. Crew BM dresses in that color, and in their photos next to their SOs they look great. I like the idea of the guys in black suits, with your FI in a light gray suit – it really makes him stand out, much more so than if the guys wear charcoal suits.

    I think the black suit, black tie, white shirt looks great for a GM look – and if you’re ordering boutonnieres from your florist, maybe you can order mint or peach-colored flowers for the bouts, to tie in the BM dress colors?

    Plus – probably the main reason I’m biased – my DH and his GM rented tuxes from Men’s Wearhouse. Even though they were each measured in-person at the store, most of their tuxes didn’t fit right – either they were too tight or too baggy, but those problems of tuxes/suits not fitting are avoided by letting the guys wear suits they already own.

    Post # 4
    Member
    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    They will defintely look better in charcoal – everyone does.  Why don’t you ask them if they’d be willing to buy charcoal suits – and that they could pick their own, and spend whtever they feel is right for them, for a suit?  Charcoal is pretty much the most versatile suit – appropriate for interviews, weddings, funerals, work, and basically everything else, and you can pair it with pretty much every colour.  Navy, burgundy, purple, pink, you name it.

    But… all in their own black suits will also look fine.  Nothing wrong with that.  I think grey would be better, but one of the tings I’d do differently, if I could do t over again, is to try to be more considerate of the other people involved in the wedding.

    Post # 6
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Curious; what time is your ceremony?

    Post # 7
    Member
    47 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I like the groomsmen in charcoal grey better than the black suits, but I understand your situation.  Why dont you tell them your options and see what they say?  Do they want to spend money on renting a suit?  Maybe they wouldnt mind.. With our groomsmen, we discussed the rent option and got a really good deal for 5 rental suits, the guys loved their suits so much and felt so good in them. 

    Post # 8
    Member
    268 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    My groom wore a light grey 3 piece suit as I wanted our look be soft and pretty. Our wedding colors were blush, peach, ivory and grey. Because of this I wanted our 2 groomsmen in light to medium grey suits to appear more cohesive with the “look”. Because I had such a firm view we bought them suits as gifts and they looked terrific. The suits were from Indochino.

    Post # 10
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @cestvrai:  Black suits are totally fine in the evening. Nothing wrong with grey, either, of course, but most of the objections to black before largely invalid as the light dims.

    Post # 11
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Also they’ll look better in black suits they own, than in anything rented, as the suits will fit correctly. Rentals are never as close as your own clothes.

    Post # 14
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    3249 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    @cestvrai:  If you just say charcoal suit, it is up to them how they want to do it.  But, I still can’t see a really compelling argument against black, if it’s an evening wedding, to be perfectly honest.  Charcoal is better, but it’s marginal at night.

    Post # 15
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    7 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I voted grey but now I regret it. The black will have a better contrast in the photos. You’ll be able to tell the groom apart from the other guys. Hope that helps.

     

    Post # 16
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    168 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    @EricGroom:  “You’ll be able to tell the groom apart from the other guys.” I’ve never really understood this reasoning. How many people are going to be looking at the wedding photos that don’t already know who the groom is? Even if they don’t, won’t it be obvious that the groom is the one standing with the bride in almost all the photos?

    @cestvrai:  The only thing that you would have to worry about with black is the tie selection. As you mentioned, black is very high contrast and probably won’t play well with pastel ties. Note that if you Google image search, 90+% of the looks involve a black tie, or at least gray/silver.

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