- 7 years ago
- Wedding: August 2011
So today has been a little rough. Maybe it’s because I’m PMSing, but it seems like everything weighs a little more today.
FI and I have been bickering about every.little.thing. Not stupid stuff either. It’s all things that are important to us, but we’re not really communicating very well.
For one, FI is unemployed. This is because we moved from our hometown where FI was a police officer. He wanted a better life (make more money) in another state, so we moved. I work from home, for the same company that I worked at back home. This is really stressful for me. I don’t mind being a breadwinner, as long as my partner is trying to find a job, even if it’s the silliest of jobs. When we first moved, he said he would buckle down and get a job right away. Two and a half months later, nothing. He hasn’t really even tried, is the worse part. He gets up around 10am, makes breakfast, and watches stupid shows on the DVR while I’m working away. I’m honestly starting to resent him, and it makes our daily lives harder.
Two – he has little or no interest in the wedding. Every little task is like a HUGE burden on him. Try planning the whole thing, Sir! And when I tell him that it’s all things that happen when you get married, he says ‘Lets just do something small and cheap.’ A little late for that! 4 months away, and we’ve got everything planned and half paid for. It’s not like I can cut down the guest list at this point.
Three – every.little.thing bugs me now. Because I’m irritated about all of the above, I have a really short fuse. We got in a fight this morning because he originally wanted a group bachelor/bachelorette party, but my girls wanted to do something with just me. I suggested we do both. He said fine. Well, this was about a month ago that we had this discussion. Fast forward to now, he completely ignored what I said before about having both, and he and his groomsmen have planned their own thing. Even though I already told my BMs that we would have two. They were all really excited about it. Not that telling my BMs that we’ll only have one party is a big deal, it’s the principle of it all – that he didn’t even consider talking to me about it.
So we fought about that…tears from me and all. And two hours later he comes in and wants to love on me, and I just don’t even want to see him.
Is this normal?? I just want to know that this stress will go away.
We can get through it, but right now it’s just really tough 🙁
Thanks for listening…sorry it’s so long!