- 7 years ago
- Wedding: October 2011
I got into the world’s biggest fight with my FI, and I can’t help but think that if we weren’t planning this wedding we wouldn’t be fighting so much. As you all might know, we’ve been having some troubles with our guest list. But after hours of sorting things out, I thought I had it finalized. And he came home from a visit at his mom’s house yesterday to tell me “we have to invite couple B. They’re almost like family” Ummm excuse me??? I am the only one putting hours of effort into this, you are just yessing or noing. Don’t come home and tell me what I HAVE to do. So I said to him, well actually they aren’t like family, they aren’t even close. They are your sister’s inlaws, who happen to be your dad’s boss. They are almost her family, not mine. I’ve only met them briefly once, 3 years ago. I don’t want strangers at my wedding.
He says, well they won’t show up anyways so can we just invite them. No I say, we’re going to look like big idiots when we invite all these people “That won’t show” but they rsvp yes and then we have to call the hotel and say, oh you know the 120 person limit, well we’re way over that. And I know who’s job it will be to call the hote., MINE
We have VERY limited space, and a very specific 120 person venue. I happen to have a huge family, my mom has 5 sisters and 1 brother and they all have kids, and most of my cousins have kids too. So to add more people into the mix, that I hardly know, is a huge annoyance to me. The one who is planning every detail. So I tell him, listen I am trying to DISCUSS this issue, I am raising valid points etc. And he says no it’s final we’re inviting them and rolls over to go to sleep. Seriously??? So Iwalk to his side of the bed to continue the discussion and he tells me he’s not talking anymore and going to sleep.
So I go into the living room, watch a few episodes of the Big Bang Theory, and go to bed except he has locked me out and I have to pick the lock with a bobby pin. OMG. GROW UP!! So after I got into bed we argued and argued and argued.
I tried to point out that, etiquette-wise, if his parents were contributing financially to the wedding they would have more pull with the guest list. And my dad is contributing alot of cash, he is the only parent who has any say! So then my FI says well I’m going to give him his money back because you keep throwing it in my face I work hard for you to live a good life and you don’t even appreciate it etc
We eventually decided to put them on the B-list, but still I can’t help but be pissed at the way this was handled. When he left for work he didn’t even say good bye to me. And now I just feel sick even thinking about it!! AARHRHHHH