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I think there will always be people who are confused by RSVPs no matter how you word them. I can see how maybe someone might think that they were invited and could bring two additional guests, but that wouldn't make much sense.
Now I'm just stressing out. Especially after my FMIL casually mentioned that people will most likely bring extra people.
Dude, it's not that hard! I did my cards the same way and it turned out okay. I bet that those guests have just never seen those style cards before.
Maybe you should have included "0, 1, 2" as options and written in small print "please circle one".
How people are confused by this are beyond me. It takes all kinds, lemme tell ya =]
Our RSVPs were the same way, and we didn't have any problems with people understanding it.
@chelseamorning - That's how I thought it would be! Like it's really not rocket science.
@ejs4y8- Weddings are not common events in either my fiance or my family so I'm trying to give people the benefit of the doubt. Honestly, I'm going to be pissed if 100 extra people show up at my wedding.
I am doing mine exactly the same way. Hopefully it works out better for me. I have no idea why this is so hard for people to understand. Are they serious?! Hopefuly the people who were confused called and asked and the others understood.
Those really aren't that hard to understand. It means that you have 2 people that can come with the card people!
Do you think they are confused because they are assuming they are or should be invited with more than your allotted number of guests? I am hung up on the FMIL's casual mention of people bringing more guests that you've invited. Why can't she straighten this out when people call with questions...?
@MarzipanMrs. - FMIL told me that she didn't know what to tell them. Knowing her she probably told them to do what they wanted to. It's just so frustrating because some people get it and some people don't but they don't call me. So far I've only gotten 2 RSVPs back from the MOH and my aunt who I already knew was coming.
Uggh, sounds like a pain :/ Even though it'll be totally annoying, can you just tell your FMIL to direct all future calls to you or someone you 'gift' with the task of fielding these questions, lol? It doesn't sound like you can count on your FMIL handling it. I'm with you though, there is nothing confusing about your format, so I am afraid that people are trying to hint that they want to bring more people.
I'll go out on a limb and say that when I got my first wedding invite back in college I was confused by this kind of wording. I wasn't sure if I was a guest or if the person I brought was the guest. But, since I didn't have any kids or anything, I figured it out quickly that "2" probably meant "me + date" and not "me + date + awkward third wheel guest". But I can see how, say, a married couple with one child might be confused. Did your guests have to indicate an entree choice? That's my backup plan for figuring out how many they're rsvp-ing for. If I wanted to invite 2 people, and there are 4 sets of initials next to food choices, they're definately getting a phone call.
I do think your FI needs to talk to his mom and emphasize that the bringing extra people thing is not okay and she needs to make sure people understand that when they call to clarify. Tell her the caterer is bringing the exact amout of food and chairs and everything, so any extra guests that show up are going to be standing in a corner, awkward and hungry.
Ack, that's frustrating. To tell you the truth the first time I saw one of those RSVPs I was like why are they saying I can have 2 guests come with me??? Yups, it sounds silly but I really didn't understand that wording even though I know now that it's commonly used.
I figured it out and so did everyone else and it was fine. I'm sure people who are confused will call someone so just get the word out.
Ack, sorry you are going through this!
My suggestion is that you send you MIL a list of all people on her side of the family that were invited (may organized by invite sent) and let her know that extra people are not OK!
I don't understand why they are confused. At least people RSVP, most people in my family don't (which I am afraid of).
People seem to be confused no matter what! What we were going to do was just have seats for everyone- so on our response cards we put each person's name. (Each person had there own, and then they just chose a plated dinner option). My MOH got invited to another wedding and she didn't get the M_______________ on those response cards. I was like.... well... oh boy. I better not go that route!
I have no idea what is confusing about your RSVP card. Unless you sent it to just Joe Smith and put _ out of 2 guests on his card as well, then he might be wondering if he had a date or something.
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I have been reading about other brides and their RSVP troubles. So when my invitations were made I thought I wouldnt have to worry. Wrong. Because my venue has limited space I tried to prevent guests from assuming they were allowed guests:
Mr. and Mrs. Applebaum
___ of 2 guests will attend
This has turned out to be a disaster. Everyone on my fiance's side is confused and calling my FMIL and FI asking if they're invited guests and they don't understand the RSVP. I don't know where I went wrong. Is this really that difficult to figure out?