Post # 1
I love fashion and love the way the Sex and the City girls dress. Posh spice is my fashion icon. However, it’s hard to wear those outfits in the midwest without looking out of place. I want to look chic and stylish but everywhere I go, I only see women in jeans, t-shirts, flip-flops, sweats, the norm. It’s like the show “What Not To Wear” everywhere I go and I feel like I’m going to end up like the women before the makeover someday. Everytime I do dress up, people are so shock and asks where I’m going? Can’t a girl wear heals and a dress to go grocery shopping?
Do any of you girls feel like you’re can’t be stylish where you live?
Post # 3
Girl, I hear ya!!! Whenever I return to Wisconsin I get weird looks and/or comments about how I dress. A couple of years ago, I came home from college wearing pointy-toe shoes and my family litteraly laughed at me. Then, about 2 years later when I had switched to round-toe shoes, the pointy-toe thing had finally arrived in WI and they suddenly understood! Anyway, just do your thing and be confident in how you dress and present yourself. Just because everyone else thinks sweatpants, ratty t-shirts and dirty tennies is an appropriate outfit for shopping (or generally going out in public), doesn’t mean you have to comply!
Post # 4
OH LOL you crack me up. I grew up in Southern California (Orange County anyone? Hullo) and I live in the midwest. St. Louis now, which is a HUGE upgrade from my previous Cow Town of 500. Yuck. That place is hoosier-ville. But uh, people are not that fashionable here. Definitely behind the times. My friend in Cali is always keeping me ahead of the time. I have a more laid back Cali style flair to my regular look–chunky jewelry, blonde hair, etc. I can’t say I wear heels and a dress to the store, though, but usually cuz i go after the gym =]
Seriously, there are too many women here running around looking like a mess! No makeup, dirty nasty flip flops (at least have some decent ones?), rats nest, and sloppy clothes with holes in them! Once in awhile, ok i get it. I still try to buy chic, cute yoga pants for my “lazy days” and pair them with a half-decent $5 old navy t-shirt. That’s my idea of sloppy!
Post # 5
Haha, I used to feel the same way when we lived in Indiana… I’d get all kinds of weird loks for putting on jeans, heels, and a black shirt to go to the bar – everyone else would be wearing jeans, flips, and an old tee shirt.
Post # 6
This is funny. I just moved from the midwest to Southern California, and I can’t feel like I keep up the style here. I’m kind of plain–i’m a big gap/preppy type of girl, so I’m wearing a tank tip and capris and always feel underdressed around girls wearing sun dresses, makeup and trendy jewelry. I like to dress up–I just don’t have the fashion sense or budget to be doing it every day (eespecially to a coffee shop at 8am on Saturday!)
Post # 7
Oh I’m kind of loving this thread! Per Lattelove above Chicago IS the exception in the midwest! It is pretty cosmopolitan. So the rest of you should move up here!
But I get it because my mom is from Southern IL – like SMALL TOWN – and whenever we visit people stare at us. They even stared at me when I was a kid (my mom is very fashionable and loved to dress me up). It is just very different. I feel like there is much more pressure there to assimilate and to not stand out at all or be unique. It kind of bums me out. Growing up in the city I saw everything from fashionable women to kids with purple mohawks (oh the punk movement!) and the best thing was that it teaches tolerance. So we won’t make fun of your shoes here! We’ll probably ask you to send us a pair 😉
@Miss Paris – I’m so jealous you live in Paris! I lived there for a few months with my mom one summer and have wanted to live there ever since. I’m still working on Fiance….
@ejs4y8- you totally crack me up! Cow Town! I have to tell Fiance that one 😉
Post # 8
I love this post too!
My sister was just visiting me in CA (SF Bay Area) from Upstate NY. She was shocked how CASUAL it was here … 97% of her wardrobe is from Express and has been since she was in High School. She felt out of place with all her jewelry, heels and makeup. I think its because the Bay Area is so casual. But at the same time I also feel like there is more STYLE here… people get away with more.
I love seeing how different things are all over the country!
Post # 9
@Pompom – it’s definitely a beautiful city to live in! Mr. Paris and I probably will move around a bit after we get married, but it is very comforting to know that since he is French we can return at any time 🙂 As for your desire to live here – let me say, it is very hard to make it legal. I have spent years (moved here in 2000) getting to the point where I have a visa status that is easily renewable. That said, it is worth the trouble. The three easiest ways to make a move to Paris: as an expat with your company, that way they take care of all the formalities; save up money and spend a year as a student w the sorbonne or another school, if you attend a French school you are legally allowed to work up to 27 hours/p week so you can make a little money, but no full time employment is possible; look into an 18 month (maximum) work exchange with aipt, they are an organization that helps process paperwork and find employment for people who want to gain work experience abroad. After I graduated, I went through Aipt to process my work visa for my first job. With great difficulty and lots of tenacity, I was able to stay after the 18 months but I think I am by far the exception…Anyway, hopefully these quick tips will help if you decide to go for it and make the move to Paris!
Post # 10
PS – sorry I totally side-tracked the thread there!
Post # 11
hehehe… I too can really relate to this! I grew up in the midwest, went to college in the greater LA area — to my LA friends, I’m totally simple, plain jane, not in style (the nice ones say “classic”), but my MI friends are always like “Why do you dress up so much!?” hahaha… love it!!
Post # 12
I moved to the Midwest from NJ and really calmed down my style… I didn’t realize/notice until my friends came to visit and go out and I wore a simple jersey dress and flip flops and they wore dresses and skirts that showed cleveage and heels. Someone shouted from a car something like “WHERE ARE YOU GOING” and I was like Holy S…. this is normal in NJ/NYC not in Indy!
Post # 13
I moved from Rural PA to Long Island NY for college, and boy was that a culture shock … I could never keep up! Not because I didn’t know what the trend was, but because I could never AFFORD whatever the trend was. I really really wanted to fit in and would beg, borrow and accept used clothes from friends just to have something nice to wear on bar nights.
Other than that, I never really changed my style all that much, and now we’ve moved back to PA. You’d think I’d feel much more comfortable, but instead I miss those bar nights and I feel like I never get the opportunity to dress up. Half the time I don’t even leave the house, so what am I going to put clothes on for, really?