Post # 1
My hair stylist (a GODSEND of a woman!) has offered to give me free highlights for the wedding, since she’s a friend of my FI’s family and I’ve been using her for about 4 years now. Two questions- One, I’ve never had my hair dyed or highlighted professionally before (I’m very cheap and prefer to just DIY at home VERY rarely), so I need some advice on colors I guess. My hair is between a medium-light blonde and a medium blonde most of the time, depending on how much sun I get. My wedding is in November, so it’ll probably be more medium blonde. I like honey-golden highlights, but I’m not sure how light to go.
Second question… since it’s free, should I tip? I mean… I feel like I should, but then again she said this is a gift, like her gift to me for the wedding. Sooo… Not sure what to do. Anyone have any advice on this matter?
(Sorry the pics are so big!) Here is about the color of my hair in the fall/winter, though the texture is finer and wavy:
And here is the color of my hair in spring/summer (Taylor’s hair color reflects my own well lol! Not too light/dark)
Post # 3
You lucky lucky girl–I so want highlights. As for the color that you should get I would talk to the stylist about what you want to look like and then she can make color recommendations for you. It is her job so she should have some good ideas of what would work best for you.
Yes tip. Do some research on how much it costs for the highlighting job at some other places and then tip according to that price. If she refuses the tip, than at least you weren’t rude.
Post # 4
Definitely tip! Plus, free highlights? SCORE! That’s at least $100 value there, probably more..
Post # 5
That’s so cool: such a good deal and such a kind stylist! I would definitely tip her and maybe give her a small gift as well as a “Thank You” for the wedding (that way, if she turns down the tip, she’ll still keep the gift!). And I agree with the suggestion to ask your stylist what color highlights would be best: I would say a shade or two lighter than your natural haircolor 🙂
Post # 6
I get where ya’ll are coming from, but I’m torn. I’m inviting her to the wedding, as well, so it seems odd to tip on what should be a gift? I know it’s something you should do in normal circumstances… does her being invited change anything?
Post # 7
The worst possible outcome of trying to tip her is that she might graciously decline. She’s in customer service where tips are customary, I’m sure she wouldn’t take offense or react inappropriately. The worst possible outcome of not tipping her is that she may think you’re ungrateful/entitled or don’t like how it turned out. The choice is pretty easy for me.
Post # 8
@Taeyers: You’re right, she wouldn’t be offended, per say, but she may be confused or think I didn’t understand her. I can offer, but I feel strange about the whole thing. I never get my hair dyed or anything by anyone, just cut, and cuts are fairly inexpensive, even including tip. I pay her $20 for all my haircuts. $15 is the going rate, $5 is what I tip. Everytime. Highlights are like $80-100, which is why I never get my hair dyed in any way. To me, it’d be easier if she just gave me a toaster or something.
Post # 9
Tip and tip well! She’s doing you a crazy favor.
Post # 10
I think it’s wonderful that she offered to do this for you for your wedding at no cost, and I think it would be very sweet of you to offer to tip her. If she truly does view this as a wedding gift, she likely will decline your thoughtful offer.
My “however” in this situation is that once you have highlights, you’re going to likely want to maintain them several times a year at your own expense. As @pengoala: suggests, this could be a $100 or more, plus tip, expense at least two to three times per year for you. Is this something that you would be able to do? If not, I would ask her to make the highlights just a couple of shades lighter than your natural color, and I would ask that the placement and thickness of the highlights be such that they will blend in well with your natural hair as you allow them grow out. You don’t want to have thick, dramatic highlighs growing out that may drive you crazy if you’re not going to be able to maintain them.
Post # 11
@Brielle: Oh, heavens no! They’ll be subtle, just enough to bring out my hair in pictures, which can occassionally be mousy in fall/winter. My hair does lighten well with simple natural things like sun and chamomile rinses, though. But yeah, no dramatic highlights here! Just a shade or two lighter and only enough to bring out my hair. 🙂
As for the tip, I will offer, and I have a feeling she will decline. Either way, it’s still a way better deal than paying 100% plus tip!
Post # 12
UPDATE: Got my highlights today, tried to tip her, she literally grabbed my purse and closed it and said “Good-bye, see you soon!” I kind of figured! She’s amazing. My hair looks fab. And they’re definitely going to grown out and blend in with my hair, so that’s a major plus! Overall, super excited about the new look!
Post # 13
That’s so awesome! I’m so glad.