Successful B-List Invite Help

posted 3 years ago in Paper
  • poll: What is the best amount of time to appease both A-list and B-list guests...
    Send invites 4 months out and require RSVP 3 months out : (19 votes)
    76 %
    Send invites 5 months out and require RSVP 3 months out : (2 votes)
    8 %
    Send invites 5 months out and require RSVP 4 months out : (0 votes)
    Send invites 6 months out and require RSVP 4 months out : (4 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    311 posts
    Helper bee

    Just a heads up most bees find B-lists very rude and you will probably get flamed for this!

    Post # 5
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    I imagine you’re going to have a lot of problems getting anyone to RSVP more than one month in advance. I know it’s rough but I would just send out your invites early (3 months?) and hope people respond early. 

    Post # 7
    Hostess
    7630 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: January 2013

    @xkrsa:  Ya, I’m a fan of RSVP-ing early too. I found that a few people would RSVP right away and the others wait until the month before. Are you ok with a one-in, one-out scenario? As in if you get two people who decline could you invite two of your TX friends? You may not be able to invite all of your TX friends if you do a B list which is going to be hard. 

    Post # 10
    Member
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    for your poll, are the invite/rsvp dates you have for the A-list or the B-list?

    Post # 12
    Member
    57 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    B-Lists are rude.  There are no “special circumstances” that will ever make any rude practice okay. 

    Post # 13
    Member
    1769 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    @xkrsa:  okay, cool. sending the invites out to A-list 4 months out, with rsvp deadline 3 months out seems like the earliest you should go since it’s not a destination wedding.  even if you have to take time to track down some A-list rsvps, sending B-list out-of-state invites out at 2-3 months seems like enough time (as long as your wedding isn’t on some holiday-type wknd).  

    Most ppl probably don’t typically make domestic travel plans earlier than that anyway. Be sure to give your b-listers a different rsvp date, etc. or else it’ll look like they’re an afterthought despite all this early planning. 

    Post # 16
    Hostess
    9919 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @xkrsa:  unfortunately, there’s not really a good way to do this one.  If I was going to B-list, and I might, it will be local friends filling in for those who can’t travel.  Asking B-listers to travel really isn’t going to work well. 

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