Post # 16
I think it probably depends on whether he is committed to working on the issues. If he’s not, you just took on a whole lot of work and responsibility. If he’s not, please reconsider bending over backwards to make him happy. That doesn’t feel good. Been there.
Post # 17
elzee : I know exactly how you are feeling. I’ve been in almost the exact same situation.
You are feeling like YOU are the problem. That is called gaslighting. Look it up because it fits this situation pretty accurately. You BEGGED him to take you back and he did because he didn’t want to be the “bad guy”. Trust me on this. Been there. You are confident things can change…but yet you begged him to take you back, very likely making promises you couldn’t keep. Again, been there. Literally I could have written this 4 1/2 years ago.
Post # 18
You guys could still make it if you put in work. You begged him, promising you would change. So what is your plan to make these changes? Empty words with no action behind them will result in him simply leaving you again. You need to show him you are making an effort. It takes two to tango, so what are his plans for improving himself? Because you can’t carry the weight of this relationship by yourself. Both of you go get doing something, or else you’re doomed to repeat your mistakes.